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PTSD/Complex Trauma with Anxiety and Hormonal Imbalance

I am a survivor of Childhood physical, sexual, emotional abuse as well as neglect along with surviving two Domestic Violence situations including rape.  Recently I also had to undergo a hysterectomy at the age of 33.  I have been diagnosed with PTSD/Complex Trauma and Anxiety.  Recently, the doctors have also found some hormonal imbalances.  Obviously this poses many challenges to daily life and relationships for me.  I am having hot flashes, mood swings, impulse control, and irritability.   I am currently in a healthy relationship with a very loving partner but I seem to be unable to constructively argue.  ANY time there is an argument or even when my partner is just in a bad mood I panic.  I have reacted in violent way as well as inexplicable mood swings and even major panic attacks.  I have not had these trauma symptoms in a few years but since my hysterectomy they have resurfaced with a vengeance.  I am back in therapy and I am back on medication for depression and an anxiety medication and the doctors are sending me for further hormonal testing as well.   How can I avoid destroying my life with this.  Do you know of any other treatments tha may help?
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583178 tn?1219075063
I know how you feel in most of that. Everytime my husband would yell i would just go into a panic and do some pretty dumb stuff. But i have now learned that when he starts to yell i go into almost a blank stare and just keep my mind somewheres else. Sometimes i sit there and think of my daughter and when she first started walking and talking etc. That really started helping me because once he realized that i was not responding he would give up (thank god). I am truly sorry what you are going through because this is all such a hard thing to deal with everyday. I truly hope things get better for you and if you find something that helps you let us know. Good luck
370181 tn?1428180348
Sounds to me like you are doing exactly what you should be! I can't think of anything else you could be doing to help yourself. That you are in therapy is excellent and he/she will be able to answer the question you posted to us.

The inability to argue constructively is something many of us have. It's causes are many. For me, it was because while I was growing up, I was never allowed to argue with my parents, or have an opinion about anything............like good table manners or right from wrong, I really believe parents should teach us how to argue effectively, how to stay on point and to listen to what the other person is saying, and most importantly, how to concede gracefully if we are convince we were wrong. Saying "I'm sorry" would, naturally, be part of this education. Maybe schools could offer a class such as "The Art of Arguing 101."
Your life will NOT be destroyed by this. You realize you have a problem and you are actively seeking solutions, so that makes you a very smart lady and if you want to argue that point............bring it on! LOL
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