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Please help.. opinions please

Hi Guys,

I need some advice and peoples opinion please, its important if you think that your in this situation and what would you decide:- here goes...

I have been suffering from anxiety now for 6-7 weeks.. I am having panic attacks every evening... it started when I woke up to a severe one and since then I have been scared to go to sleep and scared something is wrong with me.. I just cant help it from happening even though I am really trying.



I suffered from them when I was younger so I know I am prone to them.. I am getting some help and going to start a stress less course next tuesday which im hoping will help.....this is my issue thats stressing and worrying me even more... Its my Fiance's 21st and we are supposed to be going away next friday.. we are going away with about 12 other people but I just dont think im ready for it... Im not sleeping well.. not eating well.. I usually enjoy my drink but I just want to get over these before i start drinking again.. and I am so scared of flying.. I usually just take diazepam which I know does help but as im suffering from anxiety already my fears are even worse. 1. that I will die 2. Im so far away from home and what if I have them whilst we are out and I can't just go back to the hotel by myslelf (its prague by the way we are going to) 3. Im scared of being sick and others being sick round me and I know my Fiance is prone to drinking a lot and then getting sick.. its ok at home as I can just sleep in the other room.



I dont want to avoid things and I have given myself a goal to be better for christmas... as im suffering bad at the moment I just think I will spoil it for him if I go as I dont want to drag him back to the hotel as im panicking.. so I think this is making me worse.. ive spoke to him and he just wants me better so he doesnt mind if I didnt go... I do feel so bad though as I have organised it and paid for it but I just dont think im ready. Please give honest opinions and I know I am avoiding it at the time being but I know I am going to get better but its only a week and half away and I think I will be rushing things by going.. I cant get it off my mind and I need advice.. Im worried what my family and friends with think especially the ones that are going. I very worried unhappy lady at the moment. Plllllllllease help.  x
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Yes you have found yourself in a situation you could do without. But let us break it down bit by bit. You are worrying in advance of something. Looking for the worse case senario that could possibly happen. But we know it won't happen. You are not going to die. I always tell people to write down a list of things they fear they might die from and come the end of the day write down a list of near misses? You will probably see that mothing on the morning list matches the night time list. You probably won't even have a night time list. Because nothing close on death would occur during your day. Something just to think about trying.

Going away is not going to get any easier with the fear you have surrounding it. Is there a way around this fear? Medication wise. Just for the trip. So you can get through it in one piece. One thing I would suggest is a talk with your partner. Let him know exactly how you are right now. That in itself would be a great weight off your mind. You are trying to make him think all is great at the moment. So really you are hiding a few things away. Then together maybe you can come up with course of action for this trip. But he has to know how you are feeling. Don't hide that from him. Could make the situation a lot worse if he was to think something was up that involved him. If you know what I mean. Honesty first.

You have the right idea about goals and stress classes and the likes. So you know the direction you need to be going in. That says a lot about a person. It shows strength and determination. But take things one step at a time. As they happen. I never look ahead of myself. I am living this minute here and now. If I thought too far ahead I wouldn't want to be there. Break your situations down. Bit by bit you can tackle them.

Hope this was of some help. Keep us posted.
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Thanks for your advice it was helpful. I just really think its something I could do without right now... as my fears of everything feel like there 10 times as bad... I have talked to my partner who is understanding.. I just dont want to let him down.. its a special occasion but I really dont want to go and ruin it for him.. Im still having panic attacks everyday at the moment and im exhausted and not loads of company.. I think he might have a better time without me. I know I can overcome it but dont want to rush it. Thanks for your time.
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a little confused....why will u be better in a week and a half?  u sound like me when i first started having anxiety... i thiught i could fight it or it will go away, but it never did and it got worse. finally i got so wore down, went into heavy depression. after i got on lexapro, im sooooo better, all of my symptoms went away. i would say go see ur doc and tell him everything, and he should help u. i know this is hard, but i promise u will get better.
goodluck
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No the holiday for the birthday is a week and a half away.
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oh, i don't know why i did not catch that...i feel stupied...lol
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Thanks for your advice.. I wish that somebody could click there fingers and I could go away but im to scared, I just dont think Im quite ready for such a big challenge.. im sure a lot of other people feel this way.. thats why I wanted to come and ask peopel honest opinions.. would you go?
Thanks again. :-)
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I cannot say go or not go, but whether you choose to go or not, I like the idea of breaking the options down a bit.  If you stay, therapy, rest, exercise and self-pampering bath, massage) are ideas.  If you go, bring your toolbox of strategies with you (deep breathing, stress ball to squeeze, cards for solitaire to focus, lavender oil, relaxing music, a journal.  Discuss with your honey some time to spend alone together just relaxing in Prague.  You don't have to be with the friends 24/7 and you can pace your touring.  Either way, you must take care of yourself first and follow your head.  Once marriage, house, kids arrive, you need to keep your "maintenance" as a priority.  Take Care.
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Go to a doctor in your area that deals with panic attacks and ge on the proper medication. Be that it's so close to leaving on your trip I would use Xanax at.0.125mg 3 times a day or as needed. It will help you a great deal just do it for yourself.

Regards,
Ko
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When you come back from your trp you can you can choose the best method to deal with your aniexty.

Regards,
KO
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Since I'm just a kid, I can't say weather you should go or not but I wanted to say that your not alone..that actually makes me feel better because I have the same exact 3 fears. It's weird and alot of people don't fear those things, but I do and I feel so alone. I sit there thinking about them, although instead of being afraid to die, I feel like that'd be the better option..but anyway, go to your stress course and good luck :]
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