Hi! Okay so theres no one way fits all with this, as each of us have individual differences. However, I would suggest you focus your energy on gaining healthy coping mechanisms to your anxiety. One thing that i know worked for a friend is practicing mindfulness, as it helps you learn how to stay in the moment so you won’t be stuck replaying things. Other things such as breathing exercises to calm down and Using a coloring book may prove to be calming. Try doing more things that keep you in the moment as well, so to get your mind off those things, try new activities or doing things you enjoy. Another thing you can try doing is using CBT (I strongly recommend you google and learn more about this) , try and challenge your negative thoughts and think of other possible more positive outcomes to the situations, using positive affirmations can help with this as well. What i used to do when i had irrational fears was, I would write the whole fear down in a book which only I would see, I would come back hours or days later, read it over, try and see the flaws in my thinking at that moment, and make myself realize that this was illogical, id then rip it up and let it go. Lastly, theres an app called “Whats up?” that can help you stay grounded when you need a quick fix, its a very amazing app.
Hope this helped even the slightest bit.
This is pretty much the definition of anxiety -- obsessing over thoughts that objectively are probably just life as it is but for us seems to be scary. It also sounds like you might have some insecurity, which is very common. If you're starting your prescription without the help of your psychiatrist, just doing it on your own, I wouldn't recommend that -- the proper way to both start and stop these meds is to taper up slowly and taper down even more slowly so you can deal with side effects of both. I'd also ask just how much this has messed up you life, because it may be therapy, as suggested above, and relaxation techniques as also mentioned above might be more beneficial to you in the long run as you might learn how not to do this. Medication can help us feel better, and if often the only thing that works when life gets really unliveable, but it doesn't fix the problem, it just makes us not feel as bad about it. If you can fix the problem with the techniques mentioned above, you don't need to worry about it anymore.
Thank you both!! I'm definitely going to try everything mentioned. I'm making a list of it all. :-)
I forgot to add in that I agree that I do have some insecurity, which I hate to admit. :-/ I was more confident in my 20's and 30's than I am now in my 40's. That makes no sense! I should not care half as much now as I did back then. I just can't figure that out.....
victoria2222 I know exactly where you’re coming from. It’s like you get one thing in your head and it’s gets stuck in your head for x amount of time and then you start to believe it as if it’s true but it’s not. Trust me. Message me if you want and I’ll tell you what I’m going through right now