head pain/pressure

[greasemonkey4life35]

I have started getting these strange head sensations. I feel my anxiety has returned...or rather I know it has. This is so strange though. Last bout of anxiety I had had me convinced I was dieing. That I was having a heart attack or heart failure. Now its my head and my heart feels fine. I have every test under the sun in the last 3 years except a.brain scan. This is hard to.describe and is a very strange feeling. I will get these spots in my head where it feels like a ton of pressure is building up...then its gone. The ones that really scary are the ones on the back of my head. But I haven't dropped yet so that's gotta be a good sign. I go to dr monday for my irritable bowel(probably) caused by my anxiety). I once again feel like I am dieing..I've lost almost 15 lbs from lack of appetite.I can't handle this...I hate feeling like im dieing. My heart isn't the problem anymore..it seems to be my head and neck now. I've had a heart cath and abdominal.scan...an mri of the chest and neck. They found nothing..so I know its my head. Anxiety is horrible and my wife is strugggling watching me waste away as she puts it. It once again has a hold of my life. If anyone is dealing with this and wants to.talk please contact me. Sometimes talking about it really helps. I can't afford a therapist so maybe we can be each others therapists....haha...im an other healthy 35yr old male who for some reason has a brain that's out of whack...please help....oh and one note as to what caused my anxiety to start in the first place.back in 08...my dad died..I lost my job..my house both cars my aunt died and my brother in law died...all with in about 6 months...the stress cracked me I guess...life is much better now and I was off.the celexa for about 6 months before it came back. Maybe the holidays were the trigger...I do still miss dad terribly. Want to talk or have any advice get a hold of me please...thank you

[jul04]

I know what you mean about not thinking about it.  We get ourselves stuck in these cycles where we think about "it" so we have anxiety but if we can keep ourselves busy we aren't anxious because we aren't thinking about it.

I am not a therapist but I think that everything you were dealing with in Iraq and Korea as well as the deaths of your family members is coming to the surface and causing your anxiety.  Sometimes when you are in a situation you just do what you have to do to get through the day and it isn't until we are out of that situation that the effects of it come out. For instance when you were over in Iraq & Korea you there doing your job and you may have buried your emotions about what you were dealing with.  Then it wasn't until you came home that they started to come out.  

Sorry about your dad.  Apparently his death has had a huge effect on you.  I can relate because 3 years ago I lost my 6 month old niece and to this day I still haven't recovered. I think when we lose people that we are close too it changes us.  Eventually we learn to live our lives without them but I think things remain changed.  Just remember that through us they live on and they are always with us no matter our religious beliefs.

I am not sure which country you in live but if you served in the U.S. military you are entitled to therapy.  My father served in Vietnam and suffers from PTSD and the government pays for his therapy.  

I don't know if I have been helpful but if you need to talk to someone please feel free to message me.....

[greasemonkey4life35]

Thanks for that encouragement.the hard part is not thinking about it. It seems to always be there. Another problem is understanding it. I am the type of person that must know and understand what is happening and why its happening and answers are far and few. I have done so much in my life. I spent 8 yrs in the military. I spent 18months in iraq and 1yr in korea among numerous other places. Now that is stress beyond belief. What I don't understand is how I can do all that and more and then all of the sudden fall apart. Stress and anxiety are wreaking havoc on me and I cannot comprehend why now my body and mind suddenly can't handle it. I've prided myself on my ability under stress and now its gone. I think if I could understand that I might be able to deal with this a lot better. I think dad passing was my breaking point but I just don't get it. Its been 3 yrs I should.be past it but the stress and anxiety just wont go away. 3 yrs ago I weighed 225lbs...I weighed myself around christmas I was down to 206. I weighed myself yesterday I was 192. Making urself eat it hard even though I try its just not enough. Half the time the thought of food turns me green..blah...thanks for the encouragement though. I have my wife and two little girls helping me through this round and I refuse to let it win. But even though I know what is happening and I can see it ifeel powerless to stop it. Once again the dpression and stress and anxiety are consuming me and I must fight my way out. But that my friend is the hard part....

[jul04]

I am so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time right now.  I can totally relate to you.  When you go to the dr on Monday mention the head pains to him/her.  It could very well be anxiety but don't just assume that is what it is.  It is always best to talk to your dr about any new and worrisome symptoms.  It could be something like high blood pressure or bad posture that is causing the head pains.

I know that you said you can't afford a therapist but if there is anyway for you to go see would I would highly recommend it.  You can contact your local hospital because sometimes they run support groups that are free to attend and they are usually run by therapists.  This is just something to consider.

Also try keeping a journal.  Sometimes just getting some of the emotions out really does help to calm you down.  I know you said you are not eating but eating right is major when dealing with anxiety.  You have to try and eat right and make sure you are getting enough sleep and exercise.  

Please know that you are not alone and you can overcome this.....Lots of luck to you...

[jaglouse]

hey friend:)
all these heart pain, head pain etc... are just stress psychological effects, ur health is not affected don't worry :)

my advice is , no matter how stressed u are, keep eating even if u have to oblige urself, lack of food lowers minerals and vitamins thus makes stress stronger.

don't overthink about ur anxiety, anxiety comes and go eventually. if u think about it all the time it gets stronger and takes more time to go. if u reach the point where u feel its too much, just use this technique that i use : say to urself nothing is worse it that much...
if u think about it its true, nothing is worse it that much, this whole materialistic lifestyle keeps u busy and hooked to it, but as a matter of fact nothing in it is that important. whats important is that u have a wife that loves u, bring a bottle of wine and drink it with her heal each other. u have all that counts living with u, thats what count bro :) nthg else believe me...

Also i recommend u to pray. Prayers are efficient and God does exist no matter if its 1800 or year 2011. Try it :)