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how do deal with husband and hypochondria.
I have lived with my fiance for 4 years now, we are getting married in a few days. He keeps having panic attacks which I find out is his hypochondria. For 4 years now everyday there is something wrong with him. "My leg hurts, it's MS" "my foot is hot do I have diabetes" " My arms are numb when I wake up,whats that?" I cant take it,,I just roll my eyes and walk away because I know nothing is physically wrong with him. Now these "panick attacks" are happening but yet he cant tell me what causes them. Hes on xanax for them now. I think hes making himself have anxiety just something IS wrong . HELP!!!
Hey thegirl0526.
Welcome to the forum.
You say you're getting married in a few days.
One of the foundations of marriage is Love.
If you truly love this guy, which unfortunately does not
show through your post-and again it could be just pre-wedding jitters
and nerves- then maybe give him the benefit of doubt.
Whatever the reasons, the causes, the labels, the fact remains
that he has some REAL issues, whether you or me or anybody else
"think" that they are self-induced or not, does not matter.
And trust me, NOBODY chooses to be a Hypochondiac,
much the same as nobody chooses to have Bipolar.
At another level perhaps there were some wrong choices made,
that perhaps had some role in it, but the suspicion of him doing it
consciously and willingly is not going to serve you or him at all in any positive way.
The best option for you is to see him beyond the symptoms and
and the complaints, encourage him to seek improvement, and that you're there to support him UNCONDITIONALLY.
After all, Love should be unconditional, right?
Help him do some deep breathing exercises. The normal breathing website has some great info on this. It helps with panic attacks and anxiety.
Get him a meditation CD. or find a YouTube video on this.
If time permits, consider making an appointment for him with a Hypnotherapist, if he's willing to go for a session, and this will help him "tame" his issues for the time being. He may continue after the wedding with more sessions, however, I do agree with allmymarbles advice for the long term.
Take care and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Niko
Welcome to the forum.
You say you're getting married in a few days.
One of the foundations of marriage is Love.
If you truly love this guy, which unfortunately does not
show through your post-and again it could be just pre-wedding jitters
and nerves- then maybe give him the benefit of doubt.
Whatever the reasons, the causes, the labels, the fact remains
that he has some REAL issues, whether you or me or anybody else
"think" that they are self-induced or not, does not matter.
And trust me, NOBODY chooses to be a Hypochondiac,
much the same as nobody chooses to have Bipolar.
At another level perhaps there were some wrong choices made,
that perhaps had some role in it, but the suspicion of him doing it
consciously and willingly is not going to serve you or him at all in any positive way.
The best option for you is to see him beyond the symptoms and
and the complaints, encourage him to seek improvement, and that you're there to support him UNCONDITIONALLY.
After all, Love should be unconditional, right?
Help him do some deep breathing exercises. The normal breathing website has some great info on this. It helps with panic attacks and anxiety.
Get him a meditation CD. or find a YouTube video on this.
If time permits, consider making an appointment for him with a Hypnotherapist, if he's willing to go for a session, and this will help him "tame" his issues for the time being. He may continue after the wedding with more sessions, however, I do agree with allmymarbles advice for the long term.
Take care and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Niko
People generally consider panic attacks to have an emotional cause. Much, or even most, of the time, they don't. And just because he thinks something is wrong with him, does not mean that nothing is. He needs a physical checkup from a good diagnostician.
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