Aa
so alone
Does anyone else feel really alone?
my partner just text me to say that i HAVE to go back to work tommorow as i have been feeling really bad lately so have not been to work for 4 days.
Everyone just thinks it is all in my head and have no idea how i feel.
This really upsets me.
my partner just text me to say that i HAVE to go back to work tommorow as i have been feeling really bad lately so have not been to work for 4 days.
Everyone just thinks it is all in my head and have no idea how i feel.
This really upsets me.
Well, it certainly is no surprise that you are suffering from anxiety...you've been thru a lot. HAVE you ever sought counselling to help you cope with some of these difficult issues and losses? If not...that is an EXCELLENT and the most obvious place to start.
As others have said...it is SO frightening and isolating to feel that our most cherished loved ones do not understand what we're going thru...some even doubt that anxiety is the issue...and some even grow very impatient and disgusted with us, as let's be honest...we don't always climb the highest mountain and do what it takes to help ourselves, not b/c we don't want to, but b/c that is the nature of anxiety.
As mentioned above...keeping a consistent routine that includes our jobs is VERY important. Not just for the obvious financial, social, emotional reasons...but also b/c it is therapeutic benefits for us. It allows us to mantain a sense of "normalcy", which in a nutshell is the END result of which we seek!!!
You definitely need to take some sort of step forward before you take any more back. There are things you can do to get your BF to become more sympathetic to your anxiety. One fact you must accept first, though, is that he may not EVER understand it...most non-sufferers just cannot. ESPECIALLY why we just cannot "snap out of it". UGH! How many times have we all heard THAT!?
What they CAN learn to do, however...is get educated about anxiety, and learn just what kinds of very physical symptoms we experience and how significantly it affects our life. Again, they therapist is a great resource for this. Your BF could attend a few joint sessions, and maybe even arrange to speak with the therapist in private to have a sort of Q&A...where he would be able to ask any ? he wants answered, without worrying about how YOU will react to that question. There are some great books out there as well. One of my FAVES for helping me to help my loved ones understand ME was "How to Help Your Loved One Overcome Agoraphobia". It is great for panic disorder sufferers, people with diff levels of agoraphobia, etc. It really is geared towards most any anxiety sufferer, despite the title. For a person with panic disorder AND agoraphobia...I'm telling you. I could have written the book! This book has a TON of what I call "A-Ha" moments! I apologize that the author's name elludes me just now...but it would be easily
google-able. :0)
It allowed both my parents and sister at the time (pre-hubby days) to be able to basically say..."While I don't fully understand what you are going through, and have never experienced anything like it, or been in your shoes...I can empathize with you and recognize that what you suffer with is very real and supporting you in any way is very important to you"
A similar type acknowledgement is priceless. Of course we cannot expect them to understand...but we CAN expect their support, and for them to try to at least learn about what plagues us...they surely would if we were newly Dxed with Diabetes!
Lastly...we are NOT easy people to love. We are impatient, often times not ourselves, self-pitying, and VERY needy. We really need to keep that in mind when coming down harshly on our loved ones for what we perceive as their "indifference" or lack of caring.
Keep posting and let us know how it's going. Each and every one of us difficult and needly people care! :0)
As others have said...it is SO frightening and isolating to feel that our most cherished loved ones do not understand what we're going thru...some even doubt that anxiety is the issue...and some even grow very impatient and disgusted with us, as let's be honest...we don't always climb the highest mountain and do what it takes to help ourselves, not b/c we don't want to, but b/c that is the nature of anxiety.
As mentioned above...keeping a consistent routine that includes our jobs is VERY important. Not just for the obvious financial, social, emotional reasons...but also b/c it is therapeutic benefits for us. It allows us to mantain a sense of "normalcy", which in a nutshell is the END result of which we seek!!!
You definitely need to take some sort of step forward before you take any more back. There are things you can do to get your BF to become more sympathetic to your anxiety. One fact you must accept first, though, is that he may not EVER understand it...most non-sufferers just cannot. ESPECIALLY why we just cannot "snap out of it". UGH! How many times have we all heard THAT!?
What they CAN learn to do, however...is get educated about anxiety, and learn just what kinds of very physical symptoms we experience and how significantly it affects our life. Again, they therapist is a great resource for this. Your BF could attend a few joint sessions, and maybe even arrange to speak with the therapist in private to have a sort of Q&A...where he would be able to ask any ? he wants answered, without worrying about how YOU will react to that question. There are some great books out there as well. One of my FAVES for helping me to help my loved ones understand ME was "How to Help Your Loved One Overcome Agoraphobia". It is great for panic disorder sufferers, people with diff levels of agoraphobia, etc. It really is geared towards most any anxiety sufferer, despite the title. For a person with panic disorder AND agoraphobia...I'm telling you. I could have written the book! This book has a TON of what I call "A-Ha" moments! I apologize that the author's name elludes me just now...but it would be easily
google-able. :0)
It allowed both my parents and sister at the time (pre-hubby days) to be able to basically say..."While I don't fully understand what you are going through, and have never experienced anything like it, or been in your shoes...I can empathize with you and recognize that what you suffer with is very real and supporting you in any way is very important to you"
A similar type acknowledgement is priceless. Of course we cannot expect them to understand...but we CAN expect their support, and for them to try to at least learn about what plagues us...they surely would if we were newly Dxed with Diabetes!
Lastly...we are NOT easy people to love. We are impatient, often times not ourselves, self-pitying, and VERY needy. We really need to keep that in mind when coming down harshly on our loved ones for what we perceive as their "indifference" or lack of caring.
Keep posting and let us know how it's going. Each and every one of us difficult and needly people care! :0)
i have had ocd since i was small this is due to the fact my father was abusive mostly towards my mother but sometimes us too, my grandad was more like my father but he had cancer for 8 years then passed awhen i ws 13, my mam turned to alcohol and passed away 2 years ago aged 49, at the time i was 8 weeks pregnant and lost the baby.I'm 27 now and thought i was coping fine but about 6 months ago i started having panic attacks lasting around 10-30 minutesm the usual really pounding heart, shortness of breath, felt as if i was dying etc.
On sunday i started to feel really ill, very lightheaded, pains in my head, shortness of bretah and dizzyness, i couldn't stand to be in a room with ore than 1 person as i felt crowded, it was awful, on Monday i went to the doctor who stated i possibly had a viral infection but mostly my problem was anxiety, she suggested i have bereavement counselling but gave me a company that does it and did not refer me herself.
I have since not felt well enough to return to owrk but my boyfriend doesnt seem tp believe nor understand me :[
On sunday i started to feel really ill, very lightheaded, pains in my head, shortness of bretah and dizzyness, i couldn't stand to be in a room with ore than 1 person as i felt crowded, it was awful, on Monday i went to the doctor who stated i possibly had a viral infection but mostly my problem was anxiety, she suggested i have bereavement counselling but gave me a company that does it and did not refer me herself.
I have since not felt well enough to return to owrk but my boyfriend doesnt seem tp believe nor understand me :[
I think lots of us here have felt the way you are describing. Depression and anxiety seem to go hand-in-hand most of the time and I've found that it's really difficult for those who don't suffer from these problems to understand how we feel.
I've also found that I tend to isolate when my mood tips off the cliff. I usually feel better, however, if I push myself to keep as regular a routine as possible, including going to work (even if I REALLY don't feel like it :-) Talk to your doctor if you can and hang in there. Like Greenlydia says, WE understand.
Hugs and support to you.
I've also found that I tend to isolate when my mood tips off the cliff. I usually feel better, however, if I push myself to keep as regular a routine as possible, including going to work (even if I REALLY don't feel like it :-) Talk to your doctor if you can and hang in there. Like Greenlydia says, WE understand.
Hugs and support to you.
In what way are feeling bad? What has caused you to miss work? It's certainly a lonely feeling when you think that others don't believe you.
My best...
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It's human nature to feel "really alone" at times and I think all of us feel that way from time to time. But when that feeling persists for days or weeks, it's time to rethink what's going on. If you have been missing work because of these feelings, I strongly urge you to speak to your doctor about depression.
Sadly, it's a fact that most people with anxiety/panic/depression find that those we are closest to do not understand what we are feeling. It may be "all in our heads," but it's all too real regardless!
Please see your doctor and keep posting, OK? WE understand.
Peace
Greenlydia
Sadly, it's a fact that most people with anxiety/panic/depression find that those we are closest to do not understand what we are feeling. It may be "all in our heads," but it's all too real regardless!
Please see your doctor and keep posting, OK? WE understand.
Peace
Greenlydia
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