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why do panic attacks happen at the same time everynight??
I have noticed mine always start around 7-9pm why is that???
it is like a nightly cycle.. I didn't have any panic attacks all day and as soon as my boyfriend gets home and he starts bitching I start to feel anxious and when he goes to bed I have panic attacks...
it is like a nightly cycle.. I didn't have any panic attacks all day and as soon as my boyfriend gets home and he starts bitching I start to feel anxious and when he goes to bed I have panic attacks...
I know you wrote this many years ago Nursegirl but I love you for this post. It made my time related anxiety make sense and thus easier to overcome xxx
I have a anxiety too! I think it's stress that causing this.We all need to enjoy ourselves and whatever comes our way just say to ourselves everything will be okay.When I have my panic attack I get nervous,chest pain,headache/muscle ache.Are you guys the same way?
Hi May! The answer is pretty simple, and in your case, sort of two-fold. One, your BF's return home and addition to your stress level is one trigger for sure...but also, we subconsciously "train" ourselves into these cycles. We worry so much about another PA that we unfortunately make it a reality, no matter HOW hard we try not to.
Just like the person who had a PA in the grocery store. As hard as they may try to go in that store without another problem...chances are eventually they will relive their worst fear again. Yours is more of a time issue rather than a place. Years ago when I was having horrid panic attacks, one early am attack scared me so bad that I began worrying and stressing every time I opened my eyes that it would happen again. Our minds relate those sensations to those things...time of day, places, people, foods...you name it...the triggers are different for us all. I ended up making my fears a reality and for a long time until I dove into therapy head first, I had horrible PA's every morning. The harder I tried not to....the more it became a reality. It's the panic cycle.
So, you need to do 2 things. Of course, easier said than done. First, you need to figure out what's what with your BF. You need to evaluate your relationship...look at WHAT he's mad about every darn day. Is it things he's justified in being upset about? Like working 14 hours and coming home to a disaster area? I ask this...b/c this was actually a HUGE issue in my own marriage, and it was always easy for me to blame my hubby.....tell him he was miserable, blah blah....until I took a good hard look at the WHOLE picture, including MY role in it. Sometimes a few (needed) changes make all the difference in the world. You need to be honest with yourself when looking at your situation. Have a heart to heart with him...TELL him how this makes you feel.....try to get to the bottom of WHY he's like that. I'm not saying that his behavior is right, or that it is your fault in any way....but many times, we're so caught up in our own angst, that we don't realize how things we do affect those around us.....and I know for me, despite arguments we had where he was 100% right and 100% justified in being moody...I chose to become defensive and blame HIM rather than look honestly at what he was saying. Deep down always knew he was right, but until I made some changes and was honest with myself, every day when he came home was the same thing. Many times he told me that he dreaded coming home for those reasons, and boy did that hurt. I'm not perfect by any means...but some (needed) changes has really improved things all around...he's happier, I'm happier, and our relationship has improved greatly. Just some things to think about. If your BF is just being an a$$, then obviously you have some hard thinking to do....as it is not good to be in that kind of unhealthy environment.
Secondly....if you haven't already....seek some professional help for the anxiety and panic so you can start undoing the process. You're well acquainted with anxiety and know a lot of things about it....sometimes even after we've managed to kick it down, it rears its ugly head. We are VERY good at recognizing the symptoms when they pop back up...key is getting right back into treatment as fast as possible, or intensifying current treatment, whatever it takes.
Best of luck to you....I feel for you....it's a rough situation to be in, but you WILL get through it!
Just like the person who had a PA in the grocery store. As hard as they may try to go in that store without another problem...chances are eventually they will relive their worst fear again. Yours is more of a time issue rather than a place. Years ago when I was having horrid panic attacks, one early am attack scared me so bad that I began worrying and stressing every time I opened my eyes that it would happen again. Our minds relate those sensations to those things...time of day, places, people, foods...you name it...the triggers are different for us all. I ended up making my fears a reality and for a long time until I dove into therapy head first, I had horrible PA's every morning. The harder I tried not to....the more it became a reality. It's the panic cycle.
So, you need to do 2 things. Of course, easier said than done. First, you need to figure out what's what with your BF. You need to evaluate your relationship...look at WHAT he's mad about every darn day. Is it things he's justified in being upset about? Like working 14 hours and coming home to a disaster area? I ask this...b/c this was actually a HUGE issue in my own marriage, and it was always easy for me to blame my hubby.....tell him he was miserable, blah blah....until I took a good hard look at the WHOLE picture, including MY role in it. Sometimes a few (needed) changes make all the difference in the world. You need to be honest with yourself when looking at your situation. Have a heart to heart with him...TELL him how this makes you feel.....try to get to the bottom of WHY he's like that. I'm not saying that his behavior is right, or that it is your fault in any way....but many times, we're so caught up in our own angst, that we don't realize how things we do affect those around us.....and I know for me, despite arguments we had where he was 100% right and 100% justified in being moody...I chose to become defensive and blame HIM rather than look honestly at what he was saying. Deep down always knew he was right, but until I made some changes and was honest with myself, every day when he came home was the same thing. Many times he told me that he dreaded coming home for those reasons, and boy did that hurt. I'm not perfect by any means...but some (needed) changes has really improved things all around...he's happier, I'm happier, and our relationship has improved greatly. Just some things to think about. If your BF is just being an a$$, then obviously you have some hard thinking to do....as it is not good to be in that kind of unhealthy environment.
Secondly....if you haven't already....seek some professional help for the anxiety and panic so you can start undoing the process. You're well acquainted with anxiety and know a lot of things about it....sometimes even after we've managed to kick it down, it rears its ugly head. We are VERY good at recognizing the symptoms when they pop back up...key is getting right back into treatment as fast as possible, or intensifying current treatment, whatever it takes.
Best of luck to you....I feel for you....it's a rough situation to be in, but you WILL get through it!
I think You might have mentioned one reason it could be- as soon as My boyfriend gets home I get anxious.
Panic attacks come with Anxiety as You know and I am assuming if You are most anxious when Your boyfriend gets home this is the reason
Panic attacks come with Anxiety as You know and I am assuming if You are most anxious when Your boyfriend gets home this is the reason
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