My 7yo son was seeing a therapist because of his high anxiety and severe tantrums. She informed us she was 90% sure he has a mild case of aapergers. We have developed certain ways to deal with some of his issues which include having to hug him very tight while he fights and fights when he is in one of his rages, or having to allow him to do somethings like screaming to fight his anxiety. And we also have had many problems with him being very mouthy (he is extremely smart and mind wise way older than 7), and some times even aggressive due to his inability to deal with his anxiety. So now on to the 4yo. He is very aggressive, and finds it funny to be mean to people. I do not understand or know what to do. We have tried time outs, corners, naughty step, we always talk about why they are in trouble and always give them a hug and kiss after everything is said and done, we have even tried spankings (of which they both laugh about) and I just do not know what to do anymore. When they are good, they are amazing!! I might so add, my 7yo does not have a medium. He is either super happy or super mad there is really no medium. One thought I have had is, is my 4yo just mimicking the behavior of my 7yo? If anyone has any suggestions I would be so grateful. There are times I honestly just feel like I am the world's worst mother because I do not know what to do... please help!!