I recently visited a friend that has an autistic 6 year old, she is also a nurse. She told me that some of the problems my 9 year old daughter may be are Aspergers Syndrome. My daughter has roughly half of the signs and symptoms of AS that I found on the internet. I have had her to see several physcologist, but they say she is normal. I know that there is something wrong, because she tells me that she tries to control her anger, but she just can not. She asks me for help after an episode of anger, but I don't know how to help her. She feels so sorry, and then feels she is a bad girl. I try to show her I love her, but it is hard when she is hitting you in the face with a book. I love her so much and need to find answers.
She has difficulty with managing her anger, especially when she is transitioning from one thing to another. She will go into fits of rage, hitting, spitting, head butting, throwing things, it seems over very little things like brushing her teeth, or getting ready to go somewhere. If she is rushed at all, she flies into a very nasty mood.
She mostly does this around people she feels comfortable with, she can control it sometimes around strangers, who she feels will judge her. This is my question. Why can she control it sometimes? I would have to say that is getting worse though. She is now having freak outs infront of childhood friends and people she does not know. She does much better in routine, but that is not always easy to do. She has social problems making and keeping friends, she has difficulty reading other people, and interpreting what they mean. She is over sensititive of criticism.
She has germ issues, like she will ask me over and over daily if her hands are clean, or if she touches something she will have to ask me if it will hurt her, or if she will get sick from what's on her hands. She completely freaks out over vomit. If her brother is sick, she will physically attack him. She goes into histerical fits over it, like she is completely fearful of it, like somehow it will hurt her. She has never had a tramatic experience with it, as far as I know.
I have been a stay at home Mom with both my children, and I now home school both of them, because it just is much easier to handle all of the issues that come up. She also fixates on things, like collecting rocks, and will talk about if for hours to anyone who will listen. When we went camping she spent 90% of the time looking around on the ground for rocks, even when the other kids were playing etc. She will move from thing to thing over the course of many months, like a few months ago it was snakes, everything snakes. She is highly intelligent, loves to read, plays the piano and dances. She can be very successful, but it is a full time job for me to try and steer her around all the many obsticles that can set her off. My son is completely the opposite. He has no hang-ups or problems to speak of. What am I doing wrong? How can I help her if everyones says there is nothing wrong, but we both know that we need help.
What do you suggest. I have allready asked my doctor and several other specialists, but just recently had my friend suggest she may have some form of Aspergers.
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