he was diagnosed when he was 6 years old with aspergers, his main issues where outbursts and melt downs, as time went on I realized alot of his outburst happened when he wasn't understanding what was happening around him, or the language we were using, he was very litteral, and didn't get slang or sarcasem. His melt downs were caused by overstimulated by colours noise smell and touch or crowds, malls, resturants ect....he slept through the night for the first time at 5 1/2 years old with taking a sleeping pill. he took risperal,various sleeping pills and seratine which helped, My son was very repetative and would get something in his head and it could take days or weeks for him to move on to something else, he was always in special classes. My son has done very well I spent alot of time trying to help and understand the way he works so to limit outburst and meltdowns and make life easier for both of us. My son has grown over the years into a fairly functional young man, his doctors are very impressed from the improvement when he was six they thought he was untrainable, now at 20 goes to school has partime job and sometimes will go out with friends and he actually has friends. My question is I have never felt closeness from my son I feel I am someone he just goes to to get his needs met, or to let off stem with. I am some one that can do something for him and if not he has nothing to do with me. he doesn't hold conversations like other kids he doesn't say I love you or doesn't seem to notice when I am upset or angry with him.shows no empathy, why is this how do you change this aspect? I think I could die and he would just carry on and find someone else to fill his needs.He doesn't like to be touched much or held and what about relationships he has never had one will he?? How do you help with these kind of promblems? he also seems angry about having this condition says he will have a bad life