My husband's son came to live with us briefly between the ages of 8 - 11. During that time, I thought I was going to be labeled the worst mother in the world. He was hyperactive, had no signs of understanding the difference between right and wrong - and just amazingly defiant. He went to go live with his grandparents after being diagnosed ADHD - they kept him on medications for a little while - but then just let him do as he chose. He came back to live with us just prior to turning 18 and has lived with us for 2 years. His birth mother left him for the grandparents at age 2.
FIRST let me say, we have grown really close, in fact, we're best friends now.He was involved in Gang Related activities in the big cities - got into some trouble so we took him in.
The doctors have diagnosed him as ADHD, Schizo Affective disorder. I'm not so sure that the diagnosis is correct.
He doesn't like to be touched. He has a major problem with displaying affection in any way.
Because we are close, he will maintain eye contact with me --- but not many others.
He's VERY smart - but not educated. I thought it was possibly the ADHD causing him to not be able to comprehend educational materials, reading, etc. However - I was watching him carefully --- He CAN read --- but while he is reading his eyes twitch back and forth --- no smooth pursuit.
I also have noticed that he has no problems lying -- -but usually the lies are 'crazy" kind of lies --- more like big big stories to make things look more interesting.
He seems to want to hurt those he truly loves - with sayings like "I'll never get close to you"- and things like that --- yet --- showing his true feelings by sticking close and only choosing to be around those same people he hurts. I think he is extremely sensitive - and has a tremendous amount of feelings.
He doesn't have any guilt. He can't "read" people very well - he's more tough acting or hippy acting than your average young adult.
Are these classic Aspergers signs?