My 12 year old son has a friend who is also 12. This friend never talks, cannot play in a cooperative group setting, always looks at the ground and has very little facial expression. We have known this boy since he was born and when my son turned 5, we moved off the block where this other boy lived. Watching this boy as a baby, he always developed late. He didn't crawl until he was 14 months and always looked like he was in space. He never talked much and cried a lot as an infant.. We didn't see him until again until they 5th grade where they now attend the same school. We have had this boy over lots and he just wants to play video games and that's it. He doesn't like sports, which is fine, but I always like my son playing outside rather than glued to a video game. This boy is overweight and never exercises. He has trouble getting his hmwk turned in and doesn't like school. He doesn't do well in large group settings where there's lots of cooperative play going on and basically looks very uncomfortable.
I'm concerned that he has some social issues and while he's at school, he tags along my son and the teachers are saying that my son needs to break away from him. If the other kids are playing football at school, my son will hang back with this other boy and not participate.
His parents are doing nothing about it and have never done anything about it. Never any play therapy as a toddler and as far as I know, and they still don't think there's anything wrong. Do you see this behavior in a 12 year old boy normal?
My 12 year old follows me around talking all the time, loves playing football, bb and other sports with his other friends and is a very happy child.
I'm torn about how to handle this friend, b/c I have known the parents for 12 years. But at the same time, I am worried for the friendship between the two.I want my child to have lots of friends, but this one friend is constantly wanting to be with my son.
What are your thoughts????