I empathize with your situation and the facts are, frankly, that you will always be fighting to make sure that she gets the best therapy, treatments, assessments, and education. I believe every parent with a child with special needs knows exactly how you feel. It ends up being on your shoulders to be the strongest advocate for your daughter and this can often be frustrating and overwhelming. Don't give up, don't get discouraged, be demanding, keep up those calls and emails until you feel that she is getting what she needs. I also suggest you look into local support groups of other parents in similar situations, they can be very helpful and it can be nice to touch base with a network of folks who are going through the same things you are.