Well my lil ninja is 22mts now and still lacking speech. He certainly doesn't points to anything and communication is limited, he will answer to his name(sometimes ignores your call) and will fallow simple directions such as let's go, fo up when we point to the stairs and if you call him in any variation to come to you he does. He spins around sometimes and seem to get upset if you take something from him but only for a very short while like a minute or less and do self soothe. Have eye contact but not all the time(I think he is just shy like his mommy) he doesn't have a routine or preferences for food that is any different from other tadpoles his age and he loves to play, smiles at us and smile if you smile at him. He also plays with other kids though not for long and I've not seen him go off to play by himself when others are playing just sometimes hesitating to play or play a little then go play with something else or someone else. Babble a little. Repeat words especially if associated with something else. My biggest problem is communication as I do try to teach him but its proving rather difficult especially since I'm seriously impatient and sometimes aggressive however I've reached out to get help and also trying some new ideas just waiting on the tools to drop so I can get started. So overall he doesn't have meltdowns just occasional tantrums and only at home from my understanding, eats a wide range with no rigid habits at all. Sleeps well. Loving and happy follow instructions, babbling, say or repeat words sometimes, very well mannered and doesn't give trouble. My main concern is his ability to communicate and understand as well as speech. So I ask would this be considered somewhere on the spectrum or am I just paranoid?