Scared to try again

[krey]

I just had a miscarriage fri may 7th. It was the most traumatic experience I have ever been through in my entire life. I dont want to get into detail but I basically passed everything. Im scared to death, and I mean scared to death of it ever happening again. I want to bring a little one into the world but Im terrified of becoming pregnant again. but I have heard that after a miscarriage your most fertile I dont want to miss my chances on good fertile days but Im so terrified. What are the chances of this happening again? ... Anyone ever feel this way?

[need_answers_from_someone]

I am so sorry for your loss.  You came to the right place, the ladies here are a wonderful support system and we have all been in your shoes.  I too had a miscarriage in December at 17 weeks.  I fell apart and thought I would not be able to move on from it.  It took me about 3 months to come to terms with the miscarriage.  My husband and I started trying after I got my first period, but I know now I wasnt ready to try that soon.  If you are scared to try again it might just be too soon to try.  I would give yourself and your DH time to grieve and deal with the loss.  Your body and your heart will know when it is time to try again.  I came to terms with my miscarriage at the beginning of April and decided I was going to take some time for myself and do the things that I like: running, tanning, exercising, etc.   We fell pregnant that month.  I will say I was ready to be pregnant again at that point because for the first time it would have been okay if we didnt.  If you are scared give yourself time to not be scared.  Every women has a 20% chance of having a miscarriage each pregnancy.  WIth that said, the only thing you can do is ensure you are in good physical pregnancy health: vitamins, exercise, eating well, etc.  Then when you do fall pregnant again pray that you are part of the 80% that go on to have a healthy pregnancy.  I find those to be pretty good odds.  I wish you the best and take time to heal, both physically and emotionally.  -Amanda