What do you ladies think

[lori0615]

My sister is a foster parent, she has 7 kids, all adopted, one of them the baby was adopted on the day he was born cause a friend of hers called and said the girl that she was babysetting for wanted to give her kid up for adoption and wanted to know if there was anyone that they knew who wanted to adopted.

Well yesterday when my sister dropped her 4 year old off for preschool one of the preschool teachers said her sister in law is giving her baby up for adoption and same thing wants to give it to someone she knows will want it but not have to go through an adoption agency. My sister said that 7 is her max for kids cause she still takes foster kids for a few months at a time here and there. So my sister asked if they wanted to adopt to my husband and I if we were looking to adopt. This lady with the baby lives were my sister lives in Arizona. I live in Oregon.

Talked to my husband last night about it and he is sure I will get pregnant soon and don't want to adopt a child just yet. I'm afraid we are giving up our one easy chance. My husband says we are still young and I have not even tried clomid cause I don't want to take fertility meds yet.

What do you ladies think?

[DMarie919]

Well I am glad to hear that the baby will be in a loving home.  Keep plugging away and hopefully before you know it you will have your own little blessing. :)

[lori0615]

Thanks for all your input, I really am grateful to all you great ladies but I just called my sister back about this child and she said after sleeping on it they decide to adopt the little boy.

Since she can never have a child of there own she said what is one more child and they have the meens to take care of the child and enough love to go around to them all.

[lori0615]

But when we talked about adopting it is always said if we can't have one of our own. My husband is against it at this stage in our life.

[DMarie919]

I agree with Vanessa.  I am trying to believe there is a reason for everything and the fact that this information has made it to you and your husband about adopting then there must be a plan in the works.....

Pray about it and talk some more with dh but I think that if it's something that has crossed your mind before then you should consider it! :)

[lori0615]

Well we just downsized into a two bedroom, cause we are both on unemployment and I have a 6 year old son, my husband has issues bonding with him cause my sons biological father is in the picture. But I have been married since my son was 1 and a half.

My husband really only wants one child other than my son and he wants it to be his biological child so he is set on not adopting. Just scares me cause I never know if we will have a child together and I really want a baby.

[nunu1977]

I met a lady at my new ward at church, she has PCOS and adopted four years ago, then she ended up getting pregnant two years ago. they are now looking to adopt again.

I have two step children that live with us so the thought of adoption was never an option for me until i met this girl at church. i was quite surprised when my husband said he would be wiling to adopt even if i end up getting pregnant in the mean time or later on... the only thing is, he would only adopt a child from China... when i looked into the pricing of it it was WAY too expensive. around $24,000.00 with the one agency i looked at. so that is not going to happen!

heres how I see it... there is a baby that needs a good home and if you can offer that baby a good home then I would go for it. if you adopt, then have a baby of you own, then all the ore blessings for you and your husband, and for the baby you would adopt!

is your husband worried that he wont bond with a baby that isnt his? maybe you can tell him that adopting isnt the end to trying to have your own baby. in fact, having a baby to look after might take the pressure off you both from TTC and it might just happen when you aren't expecting it!

adopting isnt an easy decision. bonding with my step kids is nothing like bonding with my own baby. but in saying that, i didn't have them from when they were new born, and they have had different parent figures in their life before I became their step-mum.

I would talk some more with your husband if this is something you really want to do. as i said, adopting doesn't mean the end to TTC for your own baby!

good luck, and i hope if you are meant to have this baby to adopt that it happens for you!