Does anyone else feel like they are not a part of their family of origin?

[zzzmykids]

Hi. I have been helping take care of my mom, first every other week for a year, then one week a month and so on.
Momma had a heart attack on Monday and I stayed and slept and was continuously there.
I wanted to be there at the end. I wanted to comfort her.
Somehow, like when I was a kid, it appears this gives rights to be condescending to me from my brother's wife and my sister. Yeah she can do it she can't work she has bp2 what else is she going to do.
Tomorrow is the service. I now know all the pastors, the people that have been taking care of Mom in my absence and one that is more my sister than my own sister.
I hurt, I am angry ...not that my brother or sister didn't visit more but their audacity to think they should do all the planning, not stay with Dad while he is grieving...when they are close by and I am five hours away.
I am exhausted and feel that old feeling of not belonging, not being good enough.
Problem is, I know I am good enough Jesus loves me, I know I belong Jesus has chose to include me, I know where Mom is and that she is at peace.
So why am I feeling so absolutely horrid besides the obvious of Momma dying?
zzzmykids

[starbunny]

It's not surprising you feel exhausted, and frustrated, I think most people would in the same situation. Your brother and sister may have assumed the role as organisers as a way of compensating for their inhability to do the sort of hands on real life caring that matters in a situation like this.
You were there when your mother needed support, the sort of one to one care that your brother/sister were unable/unwilling to provide. Perhaps Jesus gave you this role because you were exactly the right person to do this, because you were able to provide the best care possible for your mother and ease her suffering and give her comfort at the time of her death. This support IN LIFE is priceless.
Perhaps you may be the one that will have to support your Dad, despite the long distance, but again - this is real hands on support that matters. If your brother/sister are unwilling to help, then they are not the best people to be doing this anyway.
So please take care of yourself, and know that you have made and are still making a positive difference in your parents lives in ways that will be cherished and remembered.

[ApRiLGeTsAngry77]

I am going through something similiar. My mom is 67 and I ( the baby) am the primary care giver to her. I do almost everything for her while my sisters do hardly anyhting.

I am starting to think I was switched at birth. I say this because I am the polar opposite of all my family members. I feel like I don't belong and they make me feel like I am some kind of werido because I want to rise above my circumstances. Good to know that I am not alone in feeling this way.