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Bipolar with delusional and psychotic behaviour?


I have tried everything else offline and am now resorting to trying out some different things online in order to get some input and suggestions. I am surrounded by nutbars (NO offense intended people ... these are my family members I am talking about).

I have a sister who was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, another who is hypochondriac who has hidden her diagnosis from everyone but I know for a fact that she is both paranoid delusional and psychotic, a son who has been diagnosed with schizophrenia, an aunt who has some kind of mental disorder and takes the same meds as the first three ... Olanzapine. My grandmother died of encephalitus of the brain. My father suffered from depression. My ex husband and my brother-in-law each have a brain injury. A close friend is bipolar ... and the list goes on ... Obviously mental illness is not a new thing to me although I have to admit ... ten years ago I would have said I didn't know anyone with a mental illness ... a lot of it has come into play over the past few years with the exception of my mom's mother, my father and my father's sister. I have soooo many stories I could tell you about my family but I don't have a year to write it all down.

What I need input on is my one sister (I will call her Betty) who is a hypochondriac (and has been since a young child) who is doing things now that are harmful. Both my brother and myself don't know what to do to get her help or even have a clue what it is that we are dealing with.

A bit of background on Betty: she tells us that light bulbs are listening, satellites are following her around, radios give her messages in music, tvs give her messages too, computers listen in and shouldn't be on or in the same room as her or they will transmit info when she is in the room, and three men broke into the house two years ago and inserted a vibrator into her vagina and it was activated by a remote control and made her want to have sex until she beat it with a belt to break it and stop it. (This has changed from the original story where a doctor did it when she was in the hospital for some minor surgery.) Obviously not normal ...

Aside from many other obviously weird things (wanting to pay doctors in the US to operate on her for imagined problems) she carries around two steak knives in her purse, takes some larger knives to bed with her and puts them in the mattress. She even drove nails into the back door at bed time to stop people from coming in.

In January she took out content insurance on her belongings in our mother's house. Mom took her back off the insurance and she told the ins. co. she didn't want her on it. Betty called to be put her back on the ins. and they said not without a letter from our mother ... somehow she has a 'signature' from Mom saying that was allowed to have content insurance on our mother's insurance (Mom said she never signed it).

She was out for the evening and a half hour or hour after she got in the house was on fire. Smoldering fire has been ruled out. She had our mother's ins. policy with her and was going over it with mom about an hour after the fire. No attempt was made to put out the fire. Mid week before the fire I got a weird single sentence note in the mail wishing me well and both my son and myself a happy future. I thought she was suicidal when I read this.

She is money greedy right now demanding money from the insurance company too. She is writing out huge checks to the church who she says is persecuting her (NOT) and also she said she is paying the demons. (NO sense here) She also let it slip how the fire started ... which was different from what the fire dept. said but one of the things the ins. co. is looking at.

The ins. co. knows all this and has done nothing but is trying to find physical evidence to prove the arson. Betty is demanding that our mother rebuild and won't take no for an answer. She also said that Mom has to rebuild and that she is going to live with her again. Mom is 80 and legally blind now ... she lost her eyesight three years ago. Betty said she is her executor of the will as well as her living will and in control of her health. We are having everything redone this Thursday with a lawyer so that Mom will be looked after by my brother who is of sound mind. He has already built mom a room of her own in his house and she is well looked after there. She cannot live with me as I rent and live 5 hours away and it is too far from her friends.

Upon investigating the house we found the knives in Betty's bed as well as several knives in our mother's bedroom that she did not put there. Scissors had been stabbed in the sewing room stool belonging to mom. These were all pre-fire as they were under the debris. Shortly after the fire we found a huge knife driven into the hardwood closet door of our mom's bedroom and an axe driven into the wall of the living room.

... and if anyone has any theories as to what is wrong with my sister I would greatly appreciate the input ... we would really like to know what we are dealing with. I have certain labels I have already attached to her obvious mental illness but would appreciate more input.

A few different people have mentioned bipolar (manic depressive) disorder and I was wondering if this sounded familiar to anyone?

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Ohhhh no worries there ... there isn't a chance for her to get close to Mom ...   We have thought of getting legal guardianship and we have taken pictures of all the knives, etc. as has the insurance company.  If she trespasses onto my brother's property he is fully prepared to call the police and tell them about the knives in her purse, etc.

She doesn't have a doctor of her own any more ... any doctor she has seen in the past year has tried to help her by signing her into the hospital with a form one however her fool of a husband keeps helping her get back out.   We don't know how he does it but he does ... no worries ... the next time we call the police we intend to tell them that he is enablling her and is as much of a problem as she is.  It may not be fair to him but at least this way both of them will get put into the hospital for assessment and cannot get each other out. Hopefully this will get her the help that she needs.  I don't expect her to bounce back too quickly as she has been this way for quite some time now.

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I don't know what is wrong with your sis other than she is definitely over the edge. For heaven's sake keep her away from your Mom. You may be able to go to a lawyer and get legal guardianship over her on the grounds she is mentally incompetent. Any reports of the axe, knives and etc from the authorities would help. Even her showing up in court with knives would do the trick. Talk to her dr and tell them what is going on, Good luck
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I would love to get her back into a psychiatric hospital ... unfortunately so far we have been unable to do so ... Canadian laws could put her in but we need to catch her in the act of doing something wrong in order for them to intervene (stupid rules) ... we are expecting a blow up very shortly from her when she finds out she no longer has any control over mom ... and mom admitted today that she is afraid of her and what she will do ... up until now she has kept silent about her own fears ... mom is at her mercy and I do believe Betty would harm her as does my brother.  Unfortunately fearing something from someone is not grounds to get her help unless she is immediately threatening someone else.  We have a couple plans of action lined up and are preparing to get her put into the hospital when she blows.  It won't be pretty ... it never is ... but at least she will get the help she needs.  Thanks

Our other problem is she no longer has a doctor of her own and refuses pshychiatric help as she says she doesn't have a problem ... everyone else does.
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she needs psychiatric intervention really bad! she needs to be in a hospital. i'm bipolar and don't do those things and when i have delusions i recognize that they aren't real but she need help now.
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Maybe bipolar one dillusional or borderline personality with the bp1.
BUT, you and brother need to get her to a psychiatrist.  In most states if you have a pdoc and a family member you can get the person into a psych unit for
"monitoring".  Check it out, it sounds as if she is a harm to herself, that alone can get a well check from the police.
You need professional intervention.
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