Do you think my daughter is bipolar or worser symptom?

[sunnyshinestars]

Hi,
I need some serious help fpr my daughter. I am scared to take her to a doctor as I am afraid the might put her away. I think she is bipolar.
It all happened from Dec 2010 - March 2011. During this time she had a temporary role. She was 18 at the time & she told me an older guy at her job started to like her. He was 37. I told hes too old for her & wants more things for you than you do. She told me she didnt want to have sex till she was married. But she stuck up for him & kept saying 'He wont do that, he knows what he's doing.' He asked her to go for a drink with the people from work. But when she got there it was just them. He aslo asked her to the movies but me & my husband said no & she got really angry about it. After her job she stayed with her friend for two weeks. When she came home she woke me up at 2am & said 'mum, I think I lost my virginity to the man at work.'
Thats when our nightmare started.
Ever since then she has been texting him calling him a rapist, a p e d o p h i l e. I told you no sex. She told all of his friends as she knew two of them through other people. He then called her a b i t c h & threatened her that he was going to talk to me & my husband if she continues to text him. I dont want him at my house & he should respect that right? I ended up calling him & said 'my daughter asked you will she still be a virgin if you that cause I havent done this & I don't know.' He replied 'Yes, she did ask but she asked me what I believed & to me its not. So when I said it was fine, she said ok so I proceeded.'
Now a few months later we were away overseas & she did this again with someone she knew for an hour. She told me she was scared to say no.
After this ordeal she went psycho. She kept having screaming fits, yelling, trying to cut herself & said she feels like someones nails are digging into her brain & it comes & goes. She doesnt shower, brush her teeth & is obssessed with the internet. She googled 'am i still a virgin if i got fingered & there was blood?' Everyone told her that she still is but then she says but Mary never got fingered & thats what lesbians do.
I even told her a little about what happened to me when I was younger. I kepp saying you were a 2 I was an 8. I told her its nothing, he was just playing & she said 'but my husband wouldve done that.' also 'he took my purity away from me.' Ive tried to tell her the finger cant go all the way in, its only up to the first knuckle under the nail. Shes been to three counsellors, they tell her she is one but she wont listen either. She keeps saying I dont feel normal without my innosence. I feel left in half & dont know how to get back to normal again.
One night she was googling again, her older sister caught her & took her laptop from her & put a password on it. She went crazy, she started screaming at my other daughter, my husband tried to calm her down & she said 'I want my laptop back, I paid for it, its mine, she has no right to do that.' Then we said 'you need to stop googling.' & she ended up hitting her dad & pulled his necklace off him. This was while we were overseas. We rented a house nextdoor to my cousin & she could hear what was going on. Her cousins are now scared of her & they are two years older than her.
I dont know what to do. Before this happened she was a lovely girl. Always polite, caring, all the younger kids liked her aswell as the older generation.
Now she justs sits there, her face is lifeless & she stares into space & doesnt talk to anyone. I sleep with her in her room cause she writes letters saying she wants to kill him & torture him with a taser. She wrote she wants to smash his car & put a lighted match in his room while hes sleeping.
We came back home in January this year & still no change. Weve had over 400 days of hell.
I dont know what to do but I am scared that someone will put her away.

[lindahand]

The old notion of being 'put away' seldom happens anymore. It isn't One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest. I say seldom because I have heard stories of bad psyc wards. If you do a little research you should be able to find a good one. They are bright, clean, have lots of people to talk to. daily activities, and most of all are safe. They are designed to minimize stimulation to help calm people. People stay on average 2 weeks to 4 weeks here in Canada. I don't heard of many people staying past that. Then there is usually outpatient day programs for about another month or two. After that she would likely see a psychiatrist about 1/month until fully stable and then 3-6 months after that.

But it is just as likely they will try outpatient treatment first. It is much rarer that people go to the psyc ward.

Her delusions are dangerous. Do not assume she will not act on them. Most people do not, but some do with dire consequences. Here there was one schizophrenic person who literally stabbed someone on a bus and proceed to eat them as part of their delusion. They were found not guilty due to insanity because they really didn't know what they were doing. This person is devastated and disgusted at what they did now that they are stable, and the family of the deceased will never be the same.

Your 400 days of hell, will turn into 500, 600, a lifetime, unless you get her help.

And there are meds that are really good. They will likely be able to help her come down from the delusions, and start regaining her life.

She needs your help. Be brave for her sake.

[Kayannaboo]

If this is the case then you need to take her somewhere, and putting her someone safe and for her own good so she can get better is not a bad thing. You keeping her at home is only torturing the rest of the family and her. You cannot counsel her or treat her, she needs professional help and soon before she does something dangerous to this man. I am not sure what transpired with this man; he fingered her and she think its rape? I am not exactly sure. However, she is not showing any improvements, as a mom you want to fix it but the best way to fix it, is to take her where you know she needs to go.

*Hugs* I know its heartbreaking but...you need to accept what your daughter is going through and do what you know you have to.

Anna

[4WendyJ]

This question was put before me once again from another forum.  I do not know what you are looking for my dear. Let's be real.