I am concerned about a friend of mine. He is male, 40 yrs old, single. We have been friends for 2 years. I had to move away before we got to get real close in person but we continued our friendship via Internet, phone, mail and so on. It has been good but I'm noticing things about him that concern me. For instance, his memory, he repeats the same stories and a couple of times I had sent him something and he then told me about it as if someone else sent it to him and I had to tell him, hey, that was from me, remember? Also, he forgets important thing I have confided in him. A couple of other things I seeing is that he gets really hyper sometimes and he talks real loud or will sing over my voice when we are speaking. He can't seem to be quiet or sit still. I get the urge to tie him up down or force him to go to sleep! That is how hyper he can get. He sleeps strange hours, obsessively cleans and measures things. Then he will just disappear from me, he will not return phone calls, ignores messages and he does this for sometimes a month at a time and then resurfaces to start where we left off. During those times I cannot get him to answer me at all and I have asked him why and he comes up with excuses such as, he is working on his life but has no details to give. A couple of times he told me "people" were coming to visit him but couldn't tell me who they were and wouldn't you know it, they never showed up. I know this because he would be with me at the times that these "old friends or people" were coming by. His moods seem to change, like when he is in hyper happy guy to switch to distant, cold, mean guy mode. I have never experienced him in a depressive state though. It is either hyper or irritable/distant. I have noticed that at certain times when he disappears out of my life he will talk to a couple of his guy friends but then he will disappear from them and re-enter with me. His friends are complaining to me saying that he is a jerk, selfish, liar etc...these friends are pretty mean to him if you ask me because they make fun of his odd behaviors rather than trying to figure them out and help him. The last thing I want to mention is that I am seriously troubled because he also imagines things for instance, paranoia. He does not trust me lately. He says he will not trust anyone and he imagines that I am doing things I am not doing. This bothers me so much because how can I get through to him if he is imagining that I am doing terrible things to him?
I was not sure where to put this post so I chose Bipolar. I do not know what is wrong with my friend and I do not know if I will ever hear from him again because of his paranoid thoughts and beliefs.
Has anyone experienced this or been through it personally? What should I do, how do I cope and help? What is wrong him? :(
The more advice the better. Thanks.