Thanks! I really appreciate your comments. I was hypermanic for atleast 6 years? undiagnosed! now that I'm stable, I am not that chatty and friendly, spontaneous person I used to be. Just %10 of the time. My partner does not cope very well with the new me. Don't have any family or relatives in Oz. Just small number of friends here that know I have BP issues. IT is a bit hard.
But I am going to try and work on my marriage again. Some days are better than others. And I won't let the idiots mess up my day.
Talk to you again soon. All the best,
The best coping skill I can suggest right now is to talk to them and let them know how certain actions and words from them make you feel. If you can't do this by yourself, schedule a therapy session so your therapist can help you explain to them that this is potentially triggering for you and that it isn't right to treat you like this.
Unfortunately, you've fallen into unhealthy relationship habits over the years, and now that you're stable, you're realizing it. Perfectly normal. I even had to go through this. Hopefully your circumstances are such that simply talking through can help.
Now, being a recovering addict and bp1, my family has every right to take out their frustrations and anger on me, I caused a lot of it. 6 months was not long enough for old habits to die down. My family had to learn to see me different and I had to learn to see me and them different. There were some close calls, where I just about jumped a plane, but I stayed and didn't ruin the progress I have made, barely. I am glad I did, now, I have owned up to my part, my family have come to terms with their part and my condition and past, and now we are a team working for our future again. It took time, work, and humility on my part to make myself feel like I am not surrounded by idiots. I didn't change the people, I changed me and helped others change themselves, by example. I figure, my wife has dealt with my bipolar for 15 years, my addiction for about 8, and I only have 2 1/2 years of opiates, about 6 months stable, so I still have some time to go, to ever match what my family has put up with.
Not sure any of this applies to you, but I just wanted to share a story of hope and let you know i truly relate to how you feel.