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Please help my son

My son Stephen is 5 yrs old.  He does not take direction from me very well, is very aggressive, violent at times.  Has begun to wet his pants again.  He was fully potty trained by 3.  Stopped wearing a pull up at night at  4.  He acts out by hitting, biting, spitting,throwing things, kicking, punching, using foul language.  He has had all heavy objects removed from his bedroom.  For the fear of him throwing one at me or hurting himself.  He has bitten himself.  He has held scissors up to his neck and said he was going to cut himself.  I have brought this to his teachers attention, family Dr. and our therapist.  His Kindergarten teacher said he has minimal behavioral problems at school, and that she doesn't see the same pattern of behaviors at school.  Although, his father gets him off the bus everyday and says pretty much every day he has wet his pants a school.  When evaluated by our family Dr. he shrugged everything off and said he will grow out of it, and if things get worse to notify him.  The social worker we are going to evaluated him once, said he is just highly intelligent and is giving me "skills"  in managing his outburts better.  I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.  I literally live in a house with a ticking time bomb.  You never know when he is going to flip out.  Or if you are going to have a peaceful night or a horrific night.  My son obviously has something wrong with him.  I have run out of resources and am desperate for help for my little boy. My walls are full of dents and marked up from him throwing objects at them in fits of rage.  I have tried spanking, time out, positive reinforcement.  He understands right from wrong.  He just flips a nut when you give him a direction.  He also has repetitive habits.  They change from time to time.  I am the sole care giver.  Stephen sees his Dad everyday when he gets off the bus.  Then his Dad drops him off.  His Dad also takes him overnight every other w/e.  His Dad and I have not been together since Stephen was 1 yr old.  Please help.
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585414 tn?1288941302
I would think a child psychologist who is a specialist would be the best idea. I would not know of any specifics as regards psychiatric disabilities but bipolar is extremely rare at that age but a consultation with a child psychiatrist to find out what's going on would definitely be worthwhile. As for what might help you family therapy would be worthwhile but they need to provide some kind of diagnosis first or at least find out the cause of the behavior. Cognitive behavioral therapy can be helpful for a child of that age.
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1336515 tn?1285008143
You're son could just be a normal kid with lots of emotions that he's sill not sure how to controll, but here's a link with some interesting stuff about Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). I dont know your son but I'm sure if you read it you could tell right away if that sounds like him or not. hope it helps:       http://www.klis.com/chandler/pamphlet/oddcd/oddcdpamphlet.htm
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700590 tn?1279942279
Perhaps there is nothing wrong WITH your son... but without a doubt, something is very, very wrong!

I don't think this particular forum will meet your needs but here, you will always find people who are empathetic and compassionate. It sounds like you're at your wit's end and I can sense your distress and exhaustion. I would strongly urge you to seek GOOD professional help for you as well as your son.

Sending you sunshine and prayers.
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1100992 tn?1262357216
You don't say what kind of repetive habits, but I just wanted to mention that those can be a symptom of disorders on the autism spectrum and OCD. I agree with taking him to a child psychologist.
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Child psychologist has my vote as well. They can at the very least steer you to the correct medical professional for further evaluations and get you some answers and help.

I have an autistic son with aggression problems, but (JMO) the other symptoms would have shown up before 5.

Just a tip that's worked for behavioral issues on the autism board I help run/also for both my kids:
I know in behavioral therapy (ABA - which I use for my completely typical daughter and autistic son) they make use of reward charts. You start out in a way you know they can succeed and move up. So you'd reward him/give a sticker for not wetting his pants for xx minutes, then move up to all day. You can use it for behaviors (you get a sticker for acting appropriately whenever)... then once he has # stickers he gets a reward (computer time, toy, something HIGHLY desired that you ONLY give him for this).

Good luck. My son goes in phases where he, too, is a ticking time bomb. It ***** to live on the edge of that - I know how stressful it is.

I hope you get answers soon.
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574118 tn?1305135284
A friend of the family had a case typical and he grew up as having asperger a branch of autism, however this boy was not intelligent, but you said your son is smart, so I would recommend a professional help because 5 years old is still very early to fully diagnose him.

I would also be more patient - even suffer a little with him - rather than to put him on pills, because this is the automatic way pdocs work, and it will be a pity at his age. Being a mother one must be brave. in our religion it is said "the paradise is at the footstep of the mother" meaning as her son to enter it you must bow in consent or courtesy at her legs so to speak. so it's your duty unfortunately. when one chooses to have a baby, one doesn't expect him to be 100% healthy. God helps you.

seek a professional help and take more than one opinion and don't rush matters . You never know
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