Deat nhr,
Dont loose hope. While reading your post, it was if I had written it myself. No memeories of my youth, etc. etc. Virtually EVERYTHING you decsribed. That feeling in the pit of your stomach when asked if you were abused. When you say NO you are not really sure if that is the right answer allthough you have no memory of abuse. I never read or write to these sights, I was actually looking for something else and your post popped up. Strange, but I do not believe in coincidence, so I felt compelled to respond. I understand first hand how difficult, confusing and distressful life may seem to you now. Fortuanately, your diagnosis was made while you are still young. I am 52 and was not diagnosed properly until I was 48. When I was younger my parents did not believe in mental illness, I just needed to pull myself together. It was not until my late 20's that I sought help myself and that was a challenge itself. All Dr.'s and therapist are not the same. I began to believe some were truly in the wrong profession. By no means is this an easy process, It took quite sometime before the right combination of medication and the right therapist were found. I still have panic attacks, I always described them as if I was about to see a car accident and there was nothing I could do to stop it. I preferred to call them terror attacks, panic was not close to describing it. My first reccomendation is to STOP the alchohol, i have not had a drink in 15years, it is a depressant, the last thing you need. I had also become a recluse, lost my job, all of what you have described. Keep your Dr.s and therapy appointments until you find the ones that are a right fit for you. I still have ups and downs but the downs are not as low and do not last as long. Make yourself visit at least your sister, anything to get up, get dressed and out of the house. Take your medicine as directed, most take a while to build up in system before you feel better. Don't misunderstand me, I am still no Mary Poppins, but SO MUCH better than I have been for my entire life, There are happy days awaiting you, we just have to work harder than most to find them. I will be praying for you, a little help from the guy upstairs can never hurt. I am hopeful you will post again as you find there is a much needed place for you in this world and that joy finds you around each corner. Best of luck to you-
Welcome aboard.
The first thing you need to do is stop drinking. Alcohol and drugs are the worst thing in the world for bipolars b/c it makes all of our depression, panic, and anxiety a million times worse.
The second thing you need to do is get to a psychiatrist or therapist as soon as you possibly can. In most states now they have free mental health care for ppl who can't afford it. Call a help line in CA or contact a local health dept and they should be able to direct you in the right direction or even set it up for you.
Sounds as if regression therapy might be in order, but I'm not very trusting of this. Never had it done even though I've considered it, b/c I too have a lot of my childhood missing in memory. But I've seen it done so many times on TV where they are leading the pt in the direction they want them to go and make them remember things that didn't really happen.
But possibly if you got on the right meds and stayed on them--this is paramount to your being a well person--you might be surprised at how much you don't really care what happened back then or you might remember some of it and it won't be anything bad. I did that when I finally got on meds.
I have a lot of the night time panic attacks like you are talking about when my meds start to not work or when I need a higher dose. But if you are a heavy drinker or alcoholic that can bring it on the anxiety all the time. Been there, done that.
There really is something wrong with you, don't ever doubt that and you do need help right away. Remember that you deserve only the best of everything and don't settle for any less.
Bipolar disorder causes a lot of self-worth problems and the public only reinforces them. It is a disease like diabetes. If you were diabetic would you take your meds and do what you are suppose to, or would you do whatever you wanted and take the chance of losing a leg as you become blind? Same difference. The bipolar can destroy you if you don't take your meds and be really good to yourself so you can get well.
Good luck to you and know you aren't alone. There are a lot of us out here and there are a lot of success stories like me. :-)