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How can I ease my relationship with my boyfriend who is bipolar and myself who is co-dependent? It difficult. We have quite different needs! He requires space more so alone time, on the other hand I'm opposite where as I need the smothering! I love him and I don't want to give up on our relationship.. Any advice?
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Well being doesn't mean we want alone time bcuz if were asking for tat then tat means were depressed nd Tats the worst time to leave us b! I'm bipolar myself nd I love the smothering! So mayb it's just how he is! Being bipolar sort of makes us more loving at times wen were on our high moods once we get depressed we feel lonely nd tat nobody cares nd idk bout him but Tats the time I want sum1 to show me affection even if I say all I want to b is alone! I'm in a relationship right now tat the guy is the same way! He doesn't show affection nd doesn't like it much wen I do it drives me crzy! But Tats just there personality it has nutin to do wit being bipolar well at least not in my case!
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Unless he is depressed an isolating I would say it is a personality difference not a bipolar thing. If he is depressed an isolating he needs to hear he is loved. He may dismiss it because he doesn't see how he is lovable, but hearing it helps me at least.

I am a mush ball and married a mush ball. I wouldn't be happy without the lovely dovey stuff. If you are co-dependant I'd seek some counselling for that or get some good books to read. It may help you in your relationship.

Tanya
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Thanks both of you. He does get depressed and isolates himself. I feel like it's the low mania  kicking in. At that point I feel so helpless towards him. All I want to do is hug him and tell him  I'm here for you but he won't hear me and a lot of times forgets I'm human that has feeling like him. It's difficult to deal with when it gets to this point, What can I do! I can't leave as jaygee says.. he needs me?
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Focus on yourself and your own life, the rest will fall into place
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