Hello, I am hoping you can help me shed some light on how I best deal with my boyfriend. He is a wonderful, super intelligent, gifted, photographic memory, spiritual and a wonderful lover kind of guy and understands me better than I do myself at times. But....of course there is always one of those! He is Bipolar. This is something he was diagnosed with years ago, but does not take medication for. He tried for a couple of weeks last year, but they made him so high and tight jawed that he gave up. Also at that time he was at a friends house, drank most of a bottle of whiskey, got in a car and lost his license. I was called up at 2am from a hospital asking did I know this man and would I come and get him. Of course I hadn't slept a wink anyway, as I had a feeling something was not right. He has a problem with drink, does not drink often, but when he does he gets very drunk very quickly and either loves the world or on the other tip of the knife edge cries and hates everything most of all me of course. The day after he invariably tells me he wants to break up, that I would be better off without him or that I'm such a princess that he can't even stand the sound of my voice anymore. I can't just treat him like someone who is ill as he has a very strong nature and when he feels something, my god he really feels it. I find it hard to cope, now luckily he has got himself a dream job, I have been supporting him for about a year now financially , in another country, but as you may know Europe is small and flights are cheap so it is no huge deal. I am, as is my family, hoping that he can cope. So far so good, they all love him. We are all sitting here waiting for the chain to break and hoping that wont happen, that might sound mean but that's how it is when experience shows that is what normally happens. This job really is one of those that could set him up for life in an exciting environment, yet with the routine I think he needs. He tried to start a business himself but mostly couldn't get out of bed in the morning. Now I do not resent him for turning me into as he calls me a 'stress bunny', I just would love to know how I best deal with him, so that I don't have to walk on eggshells, yet pretending not to be, so he doesn't howl at me. Hope this makes sense to someone out there...