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My partner abruptly left after stating something “shifted” for her.

I was abruptly left by my long-distance partner of 7 months. During my last visit with her, she had been under extreme amounts of stress with work and as a result, had mentally and emotionally shut down. I barely recognized her. She had always told me I was the love of her life, her soul mate, and she was pushing me to relocate to her city. After an initial couple of tense days, I decided to go for walk to let us cool down. She accused me of abandoning her and I became the target of her rage. During another minor incident, she threw her keys at me and told me she hated me. We talked about her mental state and that she was not in a good place, and I left to fly back home with her expressing that she loved me and wanted to be with me. She made an emergency appt with her therapist the next day and she suggested we take some time apart. During this time apart, my partner completely detached. She called me a week later to express something had “shifted” for her and that something didn’t feel right. She felt conflicted because she said I was everything she could have ever wanted in a partner, and yet, she still couldn’t make it work. She said she felt like she was meant to be alone. On top of it, she stated she wasn’t heartbroken about us. We were building a life together and she had made me the centre of her universe, and within days, she dropped me just like that. I have not heard from her except for her reaching out a few weeks ago claiming she had “unintentionally removed me from Instagram “. Any thoughts?
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Let her go. Don't respond anymore. Block her and delete her if you have to.
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She has only been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Would these behaviours tell you that she may have BPD?
I work for a mental health facility and we've had our share of Borderline Personality disorders. Here's a link to 9 signs of the disorder, but really a diagnosis has to be made by a psychiatrist. A therapist cannot make the diagnosis (if that's the case here),

https://fcfrmd.com/teen-borderline-personality-disorder/
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I’ve got some feedback for you.  Improve your image and self respect.  You should make her realize that you don’t need her in your life and are willing to walk away at any time. Just as the relationship is her choice it is also your choice. Show her that you are willing to walk away when she disrespects and abuses your love. Show self-respect when she throws keys at you by walking away without explanation and not returning or communicating by text  for 4 days no matter what  happens and no matter how much the desire may be. Be decisive, full of self-respect, validate her feelings, and do not tolerate abuse (removing yourself). Make her believe that you are willing to leave her, even though you want to be with her.

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