Sorry you have been given this diagnosis but remember you are among MANY. Hopefully your diagnosis was made at an early stage of the disease and can be handled in the simplest way. You seem very unhappy with how your particular case has been handled but you don't mention any more about this ..... wondering what was so unconventional. Each Physician and Institution has their own routine that they follow no matter who you are; very little "special" treatment is given to anyone these days when "RUSH" is the name of the game ... so many people to see and so few Dr.s to do the job.
Now to your question about the discovery and notification : Found a lump on monthly self exam ---- saw Family Physician who ordered appropriate testing .... results were conveyed by phone that a consult with a Surgeon was necessary for a biopsy .... that was done, biopsy scheduled and results of Breast Cancer were again conveyed by phone ..... a second appointment made with the Surgeon to discuss upcoming surgery which was scheduled. Diagnosis in August ... Surgery in October. I would think that my experience was pretty much routine. Regards ....
On February 24th, 2010...I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. It was small, 1.4 cm, about the size of a grape, located in my right breast. Well hidden from sight or touch, but visible on a mammogram and ultrasound. My Pathology report indicated: "Infiltrating Ductal Carcinoma", Moderately Differentiated. Estrogen Receptor Positive: 100 percent Progesterone Receptor Positive: 98 percent HER2/NEU NEGATIVE (0/3+)
Waiting for the results is hard enough, but when you are told of the results, it cuts through you like a Hot Knife. At first there is denial, (This can't be happening to me)...followed by a Calmness (I can get through this, I will just take it one step at a time!) closely followed by frustration, anger, resentment, confusion, and intense Fear.
It is ironic how my journey began. 2 weeks before my Core Needle Biopsy, I had begun getting daily emails in my inbox. "Know the Warning Signs of Breast Cancer", "Do You Have Breast Cancer? Know Your Options." "New Techniques in Breast Cancer Development." "Click Here For More Information on Breast Cancer." It never occured to me that this was a gentle nudge or warning sign from God. But I know I am not on this Journey alone. 3 days before my Biopsy, I had fervently prayed to St. Theresa to send me a Rose. And that I saw...one single red rose, lying between the gate, and the Statue of Padre Pio, of whom I stopped to visit, at one of our Local Churches. It was Alive, It was Fresh, It was New. A Breath of Fresh Air, amongst all the other dead flowers that surrounded it. I felt that this is the sign I was looking for..that this rose was meant for me to see. I can't describe the sense of calm, and peace that suddenly came over me.
"One Day At A Time". That is my Motto...I refused to rush through that Journey with my head all in a whirl. I need calmness...not craziness. 17 years ago, my Father was diagnosed with Breast Cancer...It was far worse than mine...He is a Survivor.
I am 5 years out right now....and am on tamoxifen. I wish you luck and strength on your journey.