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I just need help to cope with the waiting  I have 1 cm mass 2cm from the nipple left breast  my biopsy is in5 days  my mother had breast cancer at 47. Then a year later breast cancer on the other breast  15 yrs later it came back again and she lived 6 yrs .  My 1 st cousin under 50 had breast cancer and survived my moms sister in her 70 s she survived and now me   Waiting to find out.   How do you cope with the unknown? I'm scared. And if one more person saids don't worry everything will be fine it's just a breast what's the big deal you don't need it anyway. Never saw my sweet mother live with a double mastectomy  from the 70's were they took Everything. She was so strong  I need to find my own strength and faith in what ever the out come is...
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25201 tn?1255580836
Well, everything may be fine but then again it may not. Family history is important BUT only a small percentage of diagnosed cases are related to family history. I would say that you are stressing out a bit early since you haven't had your biopsy yet and there will be plenty of "waiting" coming up even after the biopsy. It's OK to be scared; I doubt if there is one woman who hasn't had the same reaction. I think you may have answered your own question when you said that you need to find your own strength and faith in order to deal with the situation. Everyone deals in a different way from what I have read here in our Community but somehow we all come out on the other side no matter what the outcome. I believe that strength comes when you need it and I'm sure this will be true in your case. Faith of course is something that you either have or you don't so that will be yours to work on. Advances are being made every day in the various treatments for all the types of Breast Cancer so we all have reason to hope that one day there will be a cure. Until that time we all have to deal with whatever we are dealt and do it in the best way that we can. I've heard from countless women who have been surprised at the strength they actually had as things progressed ... I think that we women are a lot stronger than we think and I'm sure you'll find this in yourself too. Do your best, talk about it if it helps or keep it to yourself if that's what makes you the most comfortable. It's all about YOU now so "hear" what others say but you aren't required to "listen".   Regards ....
2059648 tn?1439766665
Your story is lots like mine.  My mother also had a double in the 70s and it was horrible.  But that was then and this is now.  I had breast cancer 15 years ago and am doing very well these days.  What is done for breast cancer has greatly improved.  Yes it's hard not to worry but it's far from the end of the world.  Try to stay positive.  I know that your mother is in your mind....so was mine.  I was sure I was going to die.  But they did.. . and that was hard but we survive because of those who came before us.  Lots has been learned from our mothers so we could live free from breast cancer.  I know this is hard waiting but you will get through this.  Your not your mother.  Your her child who lives in a different time of progress and advancement for breast cancer.

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Thank you for your kind words.  I am having to find much strength today  as I was leaving tomorrow to go to a funeral for my uncle  that died last Friday and got a call this morning that another uncle of mine died last night and the funeral has been put on hold for now . I know this doesn't have to do with my biopsy but it is my life right now and I need to be strong for me and my family
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