He might be getting frustrating with the extra work the extra breast takes. A friend of mine bf for 4 months then started having issues like this and after a couple weeks stopped taking the breast all together :(. Out of no where.
If it is gas bicycle his legs frequently. If itsreally bad when he unlatches lay him on his back, put some pressure on hiis belly and pull his legs up towards his chest. it is normal for babies to get increasing fussy during 3 to 6 weeks. Cecilia definitely did and surprisely right around 6 weeks, there was a huge turn around. The best strategy for now is for each feedinv when possible start with the breast, keep relatching him for a bit and then if necessary give him the bottle. So he has to work a bit for it.
Cecilia in the, evenjng only during that time would eat then un latch cry out then open her mouth over the nipple then shake her head fast while grunting. Evenualy re latch then do it again. I found myself feeding off and onfor 2 hrs. Frustrating but we made it movie time. She would be really fussy on the breaks before she wod relatch. Evenually she would go to sleep. it still happ ns on occaisson but she is less fussy in between. Now i just keep relatching her for 30 mins then i walk around rocking her to sleep, usually now she goes to sleep at that point but if i dont try the rocking, she will off n on feed for along time. Alot of it is comfort nursing.
After 28 days, bowel movements go down to avg 1 a, day but it can be normal to go a couple daya without one. Cecilia has gone a bit over 24 hours without one. But generally will have a day with 2-3 followed by a day without one. Her gas does seem to be more painful when its been a while since her last bm
Is this happening all day or just in the evening? If only in the evening, then this is pretty typical for a 4 week old - I remember being very frustrated with my son because I worries that he was not getting enough milk, but it a pretty common phase for 4-6 week olds, especially from about 6-9 pm.
If it is all day long, then it could be something else. You may have a slow letdown and he is getting frustrated with that compared to how fast the milk comes from the bottle. Try hand expressing for a minute or two before you feed him, so that the milk is already there. He may prefer the faster flow (which is not unheard of), and he may also be experiencing gas or reflux. Does he have any other signs of reflux? Any spitting up or fussiness when flat on his back. Reflux can be quite painful and he may notice it more when milk is not flowing regularly. Gripewater can be helpful for gas, as can the positions petite wonder suggested.
I would first rule out gas and/or reflux. If it is not those, then you may have a son who simply prefers the faster flow. Personally, I would not offer a bottle anymore and be patient with him - if you keep offering the bottle then his preference may deepen. Of course, if you are happy pumping and bottle feeding, then you could go that route as well, but I think that this is much more work than breastfeeding.
I also recommend going to a La Leche or other breastfeeding support group and talking to a lactation consultant about this - I found them so, so helpful.
Hang in there. I know it can be hard and frustrating in the early months. You are doing a great job and trust me, it does get much easier.
Thanks for the tips. Thankfully today has been so much better- he seems like his happy self again. Yesterday the crying and fussiness was an all day affair. No matter what I did I couldn't soothe him. He also was extremely over tired he only napped for a total of 40 minutes from 6 a.m.- 9:50 p.m. so he was a mess. Is it normal for newborns to go through periods of not napping? He's been napping today like normal but I've noticed it's been more difficult for him to fall asleep on his own like he used to.
So thanks again , he has been nursing regularly today and hasn't been fussy so I'm hoping yesterday was just a very off day for him.
cecilia had a day where she was up from 5am until 3pm, one day, it was rough.. she has some days where she sleeps all day and night and others where she may only have 2 1 hr naps...
if possible, stay away from the bottle for a little while, or switch to a slower flow nipple. He may be developing a preference for the faster flow of the bottle. As for gas, I thought that babies tend to get less on the breast, which is partly why so many bottles try to mimic it. You can try mylicon drops- most babies LOVE them and it helps with gas.
at that age, my kids had random days where they would sleep for almost 24 hours straight, waking only to eat. That was often followed by more alert days. I think it was growth spurts. It also explains the fussiness while nursing those 2 or 3 days.
Thanks everyone. I don't believe the flow is the problem because when he starts to s u c k to eat he almost immediately starts swallowing so the milk is coming out quickly and he chokes multiple times so I'm wondering if my let down is too forceful? He always chokes and it makes him upset so this might be why he does much better with the bottle.
When he takes a bottle is he taking formula or breast milk?
He gets both. Mostly breast milk but I've had to supplement as well.
my letdown was pretty forceful too. I ended up having to do block feeding, or nursing from one side only so that she only had to deal with 1 initial letdown.
forgot to add, you can try feeding him in a more upright position when you start nursing so the milk isn't shooting down his throat during the initial let down