I hope you get more responses but you should try offering her the breast before she's very hungry. She won't fuss as much if she's not already starving. Watch for her hunger cues and offer the breast before she cries. If you're still at the hospital ask to see a lactation consultant. They are great with finding solutions for latching issues. Good luck!
See a lactation consultant or someone from La Leche League.
Congrats on your baby girl! I can't even imagine how scary that must have been for you :(
Obviously, the best thing you could do right now is see a lactation consultant or someone from LLL, as the other suggested. The ones in the hospital can be helpful, but they have such a huge caseload, they often can't spend the time that you would really need there. Call the hospital now thta you are home and ask if they have any lactation services, support groups, etc... If you get WIC, you can contact them. If not, you can ask your ped or OB to refer one. LLL is free, and even if there isn't a group in your specific town, it is very possible that there is a member near you who can help.
In the mean time (it is a holiday weekend after all, and chances are you may not find help immediately), keep trying to put her to the breast. Like msteri said, watch for very subtle signs of hunger or anticipate when she may be getting hungry and try then, instead of waiting for her to cry. If she is less ravenous, she may be more patient. I also found we had easier nursing sessions when she was drowsy, or even in her sleep. Even if she isn't sucking strongly while asleep, it will help to boost your supply and get her used to it.
You can also start the sessions out with the nipple shield and then remove it after a little while. Once she has started sucking and the nipple is drawn out, it is easier for her to latch on without the shield.
You could also try pumping a little before putting her on to get the milk flowing, and again to draw the nipple out better. You can also just pinch and pull your nipple out gently before latching to make it a bit easier for her. I had to do this with my dd.
Try different positions. In order to get a good latch, you have to have a firm hold on the baby's head. She needs to be tightly tucked against your body. Until you get the hang of things, you may want to use the football hold. With your hand firmly holding her head, bring her mouth up and over the nipple and then shove it into her mouth. I am pretty sure you can actually find how-to videos online that will demonstrate. But I know my LC said that if the baby's body is not in the proper position, it's hard to latch. Make sure her belly and her head are both facing you. Once you both learn to nurse, then you can try more relaxed positions.
Good luck and keep us updated.
The LC's at the hospital sucked! I was so disapointed in them. I hadn't nursed her in almost 36 hours before the second LC saw me offered a pump and said I should have gotten it at no later than 6 hours after birth.
I have been offering breast before a bottle. She calm and just rooting when I do offer but then she trys to nurse and gets really upset.
You need to contact the local chapter of the La Leche League in your area. They can REALLY help you. For the time being STOP using the nipple shield. Many women find it only causes more problems. Offer her the breast more often and don't give up and give her a bottle too easily. She needs to learn that she will have to work for it. Take your time...but definaetly call the LLL.
Agree with all the above. Your baby is very young and can learn just to take the breast. YOu do have to persist and don't offer her the bottle readily. THey are smart.
I had this with my daughter. She had to have a bottle when I was at work. Then she started refusing my breast at home. i wouldn't have a bar of it. I decided if I'm home it's mummy or nothing. We had a few screaming sessions (her) - and then she got the message very quickly and now she's 19 months old and will take breast or bottle.... though she prefers breast.
The other think is make sure you have a bottle with the smallest teat hole possible and slow flow, so she can't get the milk so easily or quickly.
Hope this helps.