Cat putting to sleep

[Vance2335]

So last week my Vet found a very large mass inside of my cat and with all of the symptoms he said he is pretty sure what it is. Her quality of life is just not there anymore. She doesn't really eat and all she does is lay around. She will still purr when petted but other then that she does nothing.

My wife cries because we are losing her. I have been trying to keep my emotions inside like I normally do with death, but the appointment is today to put her to sleep and now I am wondering if we are making the right decision. Like I said I know her quality of life has decreased...I guess I just don't want to actually do it, but it's probably better for her.

Any advice?

[LindaTX]

Hey, Apple....I just want to second what Jade just said.  Love you and sending prayers and hugs to you and the girls.  Take care, Linda

[Jade59]

Hi, Apple, sorry to hear Loreena had another episode.  This is so strange!  What a sweetheart you are to sleep with her.  My husband and I have been there, too.  It's like you don't want to take your eyes off for even a minute - I totally understand.  I'm glad Loreena snapped out of it and more importantly, ate something to prove she was alright.  But what are we going to do about You?  You are just so tired honey.  Prayers and Hugs being sent straight to you and the girls!  I truly don't know what I would do with Jade all alone and I admire you so much for the excellent care you give THREE cats all by yourself.  

Hugs and little bites from Jade and I to our favorite family in Brazil!  Please take care of yourself!

[Jade59]

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your kitty, Vance.  No matter what shape or age our babies are in, it is never an easy decision to make.  We have to love them enough to let them go when their quality of life has diminished but it's still so very hard.  May your girl rest in peace.

[AppleBr]

I wish I never had stoped here and ready this today - but my heart is with you buddy :-(


For you all - sorry for using this post for my news, but I'm exhausted

Lolo had another hypoternic episode this week - day 2.From about 6am to 2AM next day, with a period getting better in the middle.
Cat is becoming humanized - and I becoming "catnized" _ this time I slept on the floor near her ( that refused going to her place) from midnight til 2pm, when I woke up and saw her standing in front of me - she was back once more!
Still not eating, but... Went to litter and stayed there doing nothing
- all day long just drinking and no pee, just a poo the time she was felling better.
About 3am she decided for going bathroom and stay there, peed and I could pick our stuff and my pillow/covers and go bed
Sleep time till 6AM - all was calm but i wanted her to eat something and prove she was ok - she did, the previous day chicken.
Shes fine today -but the weather is a ****, we keep having quite cold days and I'm  a lot afraid of those.Needless to say, Loreena ok cannot be keep inside - its not even fair with her.

[LindaTX]

I also would like to add my condolences. It's one of the hardest things one has to do. Bless you for doing what was sadly necessary.

[Piparskeggr]

Hey Vance, my wife and I have had to make that decision with 2 of the 4 cats we've "lost" over the past 28 years of our marriage.
(All kitties mentioned are in our "Our Cats" photo album at:
http://www.medhelp.org/photo_collections/list/1847?page=3&personal_page_id=40606&photo_collection_id=1847 )

We adopted Queen Victoria Grey (aka Bear 1st) and Calamity Jane Grey (aka Tookie) as 2 month old kittens in February 1983.  Bear died in her sleep of a heart attack after a short bout with a lung infection at age 17 1/2.  Tookie, we made the Decision when she was 21 1/3; she'd had 2 strokes and the 2nd one just devastated her.

We rescued April Dancer (aka Gremlin) from a parking lot at Eglin AFB, FL, where my wife and I were stationed when she was about 2 months old.  She died of anaphylactic shock during a routine procedure at the vet's at 6 1/2.  Cried harder for that little critter than anyone, human or animal, I'd lost before then.

Cerridwen Blythe (aka Foofie), we took her in as a stray at a little over 4 years of age; very, very sweet cat.  We had to make the Decision when she went into massive liver and kidney failure at about 16 1/2.

Tuna (aka Tuna ;-), I took her in at about 4 months; a stray who came in from the dark...during the evening when my parents were having a picnic to announce my engagement to Anita back in 1978.   She was my little buddy and I had to leave her with my parents when I got married (the quarters into which we were moving allowed absolutely no pets).  My dad had to make the Decision when she was a little over 16.  She had gotten very sick; mom said she could tell he cried on his way home from the vet's.  She had become his little buddy.

It's never an easy decision, even when there is good cause and you know it's the right thing to do.  Sometimes it hurts more when it is the only right thing you can do.  Hold your wife a little tighter, the hurt will fade in time, but the love will last and you'll smile at kitty's memory, which is as it should be for any of our beloved.

take care - Pip

[dominosarah]

I am so sorry to hear about this.  I know this is so hard to do but we love them enough to let them go.  She wont be there physically but she will always be in your heart.  The tears will fall and that is okay~~~sara

[Vance2335]

Thanks, your words helped me to know that we are making the right decision.

[opus88]

hi I am so sorry to read this, I can tell you love your kitty very much, its so very hard to let go believe me all of us here on this forum understand that. When there are health problems esp cancer(tumor)  not eating is a very strong indicator of pain....and as you said her quality of life is just no longer there.....

In times such as these we as responsible loving pet parents have to do whats best for our little angels no matter how much it hurts us, we need to act in their behalf and not allow them to suffer.
You've made the right decision. bless you.

My heart goes out to you, your wife and your dear little kitty....(((>^.^<)))