cat whisperer out there.. help!

[mary607]

have a cat who pees everywhere. she attacks me. my legs arms and my face. she is not playing around. she cries non stop. i have been to the vet many many times. have had every test done. everything has come back normal. the vet wants to try composure he thinks its an anxiety problem. i dont. she loves to be around people but she wont let you pet her if she sees your hand. she will bite it. when you pet her head from behind so she cant see your hand she loves it and her eyes roll to the back of her head and she starts to make these weird like exorcist noises.(only way i know to describe it) she was not always like this. things have gotten worse and worse with her. my mother is terrified of her she bit her very hard on her foot and wont go near her. i dont want to give her to a shelter they will put her down and i obviously cant find her another home like this. i need a cat whisperer or something to tell me what to do or what is going on with her. does anyone on here know of anyone that isnt that expensive???? and im not about to spend a thousands of dollars to have them tell me to put her down. i have fallen in love with her and it kills me that i cant help her. im trying everything before i have to put her down.

[mary607]

thank you everyone for your advice. and thank you for this link!

[opus88]

mary I did respond to this on a previous post you made with some ideas I also found this that you may find interesting...good luck with him!!!

http://healthypets.mercola.com/sites/healthypets/archive/2012/05/16/eft-on-pets.aspx

[mary607]

no one else touches her because they are to scared of her....
she bit me really bad the other day. for no reason...i love her to death so im giving her one last try. i really think its her personality. i havent been on here for a while ive been to various vets behaviorist and they all say the same thing. we are all giving her one more chance. she is no longer at my home because i have another cat. i found her home with no cats and the woman is going to evaluate her. just to see what she does to her see if it is other cats. then im going to bring her back into my home get someone to work with corona and my other cat. but if the biting continues she is not safe for anyone. i am one who believes that no animal should be put down. so i will probably put her in a program that this shelter is offering see if there is any chance they can do anything. but the way that corona attacked me.... it was like the devil was in her eyes... she wouldnt let go of my arm..
and ive had every test done for her xray you name it so shes not in pain...which is good

[kmonny]

Peeing everywhere and attacking people is definitely a sign of fear and stress. I had a cat like this and agree there is not a silver bullet fix. It will take time and consistency and maybe a few different tries at a few different treatments. Even after years of having her and slowly developing a more even temperament, she would tweak and "chase ghosts" as I called it. Literally streaking around the apartment or manically cleaning her coat. I did medicate her with anti-anxiety medication at the beginning. It was so bad I had to wear knee high boots at all times in the apartment. I'm not kidding. Once she was a bit more stable,  I took her off meds and used the feliway products (http://www.feliway.com/us) which is a homeopathic treatment that uses cat pheromones to neutralize the environment and create an environment of peace and security. I think they really helped Maddy. There's also a bach flower tonic called rescue remedy you just put a few drops in the water. I have no idea if it helped but I just pulled out the stops and tried everything.

If you do have other cats and this behavior has developed through time, it is most likely a stress reaction to multi-cat house, assuming vet gives a clean bill of health. If it's a multi-cat thing (I have three) spending a lot of time ensuring each has their own designated hang out and space (cat tree, cat bed, cat hidey hole) has done wonders at maintaining peace in my house.

Don't give up on her! I had a vet tell me to put Maddy to sleep in the beginning. It took time, but she was an awesome cat who lived many years and I was happy I hung in there for her.  

[Jade59]

Mary, I've been thinking about this kitty of yours.  I wonder if some of her problem is she reacting to your other cats.  I've got a neighbor cat, Tipsy who is unpredictable, as well as gets vicious with the biting, clawing and scratching.  This is like seconds after she was winding in and out of my legs, looking up at me, asking to be pet.  She showed up almost the day Jade did 6yrs ago, and has Always acted unpredictable...until we had to board Jade for 10days after her surgery in 09.  With Jade away from home, Tipsy turned into the sweetest, most loving cat and acted nothing at all like her usual self.  I had never even heard her purr before that.  It was the strangest transformation.   We figure she wants to be the ONLY cat at our house.  Maybe that's the situation with this girl of yours, and she is acting out?  

Did you ever get a second opinion?  I still believe she might be having some pain and has been misdiagnosed.  I'm sorry, but this IS the same cat who's tummy got so large, she couldn't sit properly?  

[Piparskeggr]

Teia started out like this with us, wouldn't even let us touch her.  She was a fearful cat who struck out in self-defense for reasons we still do not know...she was 10 1/2 when we took her in.

We started out by isolating her in our guest bedroom, with food, water and a litter box.  Every day we would spend some time in there with her, just sitting in there at first, but gradually closing the distance...do a keyword search for Teia in this forum.

It was over 3 months before I could just touch her without a bite or scratch after 20 - 30 seconds of contact, and longer for my wife.

Now, she tolerates being picked up and will stay in bed with us at night about once out of three times we put her in...

It can be a long road, we're 4 weeks away from having Teia for 3 years.  There are still triggers, which will send her hiding or get a hiss or swat from her.

A cat's instincts and emotions are so much closer to the surface than are those of people.

Patient, persistent kindness and a long term commitment to Teia is what is working.  Also, a calm, eve temper with kitty will help her develop the same.

As for the peeing, Teia did this some.  What we did was soak up her pee with a paper towel and then put it in her litter box, covered with a little litter.  We'd then hit the non-litterbox places with a good enzymatic cleaner (Urine Gone, Petzyme or the like).

Again, persistence paid off.  Once in awhile she still goes in an inappropriate place, but we think it is because she had a confrontation with one of the other three.

take care and good luck - Pip

[margypops]

I would say she is afrid of something, who looks after aswell as you, has she always been like this I cant help but feel something is causing this behavior.