It's been a very long time since my son at 7 had surgery, but I was allowed to stay in the same room. He was never in ICU.
Wherever you decide to go, I'm sure that the hospital will tell you what they allow & require. Best case scenario, it will only be a few days.
Having recently had surgery, I would prefer to travel whichever is quickest to get home! I agree w/the pillows, & also have a cervical collar to help w/the vibrations of traveling.
I was concerned about my hyper border collie, looked into boarding her, but the trainer advised me to give her a chance to behave--& she did! (however, she has been really BAD, worse ever, since my DH has been home w/a broken leg!!). Maybe a rescue group can help w/the dogs? It may actually be more beneficial for your son to have dogs at home, back to normal.
Btw, my DD works at CHOP. That would probably be my first choice anyway.
I live in michigan. We drove to colorado for my surgery. Stayed in hospital for 3 days then in hotel one night before making long journey home. If u drive take lots of pillows. It was a 2 day drive. About 22 hours in car. But flying hurts my head. I didn't have much support. Just fiance at time, but he worked from 6am til 4:30 so it was just me. I wil be praying for your dear son. Hugs, Dana
Did you consult with CHOP? It is where my daughter (15) had her surgery. Just thinking it would be closer to you and the NS division is ranked 2nd in the country behind Boston Children's. Not that such an important decision should be based on location.
Hi..depending on which Dr u go to they will have their own info to share with u in regards to what they suggest..and it all depends on how surgery and post op recovery is going....and how far u r from the hospital and or Drs ...so they may want u to stick around....I went out of state, but it was not that far a drive 3 hrs...so I came home by car, I took my pain meds just b4 we left and had a nice fluffy pillow to help cushion my head from bumps....
I actually enjoyed most of the drive as I was in the hospital for 5 days....
Also u will want to get a support system in place at home...a NL or PCP that knows about chiari and a go to Dr if nething should happen once u r home.
Many of the hospitals...offer lodging close to the hospital...lower in cost then a hotel, and the hospital security will pick up and take u back to the lodging after each visit.,..some hospitals will allow a parent to sleep in a recliner in the room...so these are all things to ask as u schedule.
I know I am not a child, but it was just my DH, and he had to leave to go to work....
So ur mom will not be at ur home with ur 9 yr old? that would help, that way the dogs can stay home too....but, it is down the road as u said, but worth considering.....so much to consider....I know there are other Chiarians in NJ, u may be able to get some help from a local support group.