MONDAY'S RANT

[selmaS]

"Rainy days and Mondays always get me down".....so lets rant all day Monday- each Monday a different topic-we will poll for next weeks.....so this week lets do a favorite of mine.....doctors!!


post ur rant and get it out of ur system and enjoy the rest of the week!!

[selmaS]

Thanks for sharing these words of wisdom....it is true easier to read then to  put into action...but I am sure we all try.

And thank u for the thoughts for my nephew....the thing is it is over $3,000 a week to get him the help the Dr suggested....he was in patient b4 but not the right facility as the counselor was not able to get him in, now that he no longer see her, but a Dr he is able to get him in, but now the ins refuses...his last stay was 10 days...not long enuff...and not the right treatment...so, we r trying he goes to counseling... my sister and her ex go as well...they include the family....he was to go to Al anon or something similar and get a sponsor which he has yet to do...but we encourage him to all the time....

He was willing to go, only bcuz my sister said he goes in or out on his own as she can not take this ne more....she should have pushed this hard sooner...IMHO...but it is her baby and she has to do what she feels is best..

He knows he needs to stop, problem is he also likes doing them....

and he will steal from ne one to get what he wants.....

[BB11]

In the book The Four Agreements it states 1) Be Impeccable w Your Word -- speak w integrity. Say what you mean. Avoid using word to speak against yourself or gossip about others. Use the power of word in the direction of truth and love. 2). Dont Take Anything Personally - nothing others do is bc of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to opinions and actions of others, you wont be victim of needless suffering. 3). Dont Make Assumptions - find courage to ask ?s and express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With this one agreement you can completely transform your life. And 4). Always Do Your Best - your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Of course some are easier to read than to put in practice. #2 has helped me immensely especially with family members who flat out told me there's nothing wrong with me. Im just a hypochondriac.

One final thing about the nephew w addiction. If he cannot get into a treatment center, a call to a local AA office can put him in touch with people willing to help. Some may even come to him.  If alcohol isnt the problem they should still be able to give information on where to get help. Most addicts/alcoholics have a better chance helping someone than a family member, therapist, clergy, dr and sometimes yes even treatment centers. If he's ready to get help DO NOT wait bc of ins problems. Help is available. Also his mother or family members should seek out an Al-Anon meeting to get help for themselves and learn how best to help him. Addiction is a family disease.  Sorry for super long post.

[BB11]

What a great thread. I ditto a lot of what others have posted here. I would say my rant about drs is if they dont understand something, instead of simply saying they dont know they put it on the patient - its just depression or like my first NS told me "to tell yourself ur problems are not caused by ur back and u will get better. Oh and get back to work bc you are just too young!" Very few drs actually take the time to listen thoroughly. They hear a few symptoms and just want to throw meds at you and move on to the next patient. And most dont like being questioned.

People that cannot see these invisible disorders and arent really knowledgeable about them are just ignorant - meaning they dont know any different. An actress Jennifer Esposito suffers from a very serious case of celiac. Its in the news lately as CBS put her off work from the series Blue Bloods and will not release her from her contract to work elsewhere. Instead of fighting, shes thanking CBS for what they've done so she can now be an advocate and teach ppl about celiac. Of course being an actress she is more able to do this as opposed to just a regular person  She was on Dr Drew last week and he was so dismissive of her. It seems all these diseases/disorders that arent mainstream ppl just dismiss. I believe we have to stay strong and stick together in this so we can bring awareness to it. Dont give up!! I told my NS i would be happy to go around to drs ofcs to educate drs n staff on chiari and related disorders just as a drug rep does. I was humored but could tell that would never happen.

[selmaS]

  BTDT many times so I know just how u feel and I feel an episode coming...lol... sigh....I hate having to rely on others to get certain things done and they feel there is plenty of time, but I am the one that has to do it,...it does not seem to sink in...or it does but falls out along the way....I am not sure....

But it can be dang frustrating.

[drewlevas]

I broke into a fit of yelling and crying yesterday. I was just so tired. Tired that I don't have help around the house, that my kids are not listenning to me, that I'm always so tired.

I hate when I'm all emotionnal like that.

[selmaS]

  Well u got back to work,....that is something of itself....and only 4 months post op...wow, I am amazed!

I am sure if u take ur time and slowly build up what u do, in no time u will have increased what u do with little to no after effects....it is amazing to look back at the recovery process and see just how far I have come and how far one yr makes and continues to make.