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I know this is personal and maybe TMI so just a warning in case you don't want to read any further!
But we had a big scare last night and just wanting your input and thoughts!
We were missionary style and I had just finished a big O when my whole upper body fell limp. It was like I was SO out of it and when I did come to or notice what was happening I got really scared and starting crying except I just wasn't me...I couldn't move my left arm and I couldn't open my eyes and I couldn't breathe very well. My husband was freaking! It was like I could hear him and I knew what was going on but I couldn't do anything but cry but defenitly not a normal cry. Same cry as when I woke up from anesthesia. Few years ago after gallbladder removal. It was just like a confused/scared cry!
Something told me to just calm down so I started focusing on my breathing and telling myself to fight this off. After a few minutes I felt totally fine! I set up slowly and set up for a few then stood up! I felt FINE like nothing happened except I was real shaky all over and had pressure in back of head like always and I was a lil bit dizzy but not bad!
It scared the mess out of us! I don't know what happened! The only thing I can think of is maybe I had lack of oxygen?? I'm a big girl and my husband was putting a lot off pressure on my stomach and chest so that's the only thing I can think of it being?
Has anything like this ever happened to you? Do you know what it could have been from?
But we had a big scare last night and just wanting your input and thoughts!
We were missionary style and I had just finished a big O when my whole upper body fell limp. It was like I was SO out of it and when I did come to or notice what was happening I got really scared and starting crying except I just wasn't me...I couldn't move my left arm and I couldn't open my eyes and I couldn't breathe very well. My husband was freaking! It was like I could hear him and I knew what was going on but I couldn't do anything but cry but defenitly not a normal cry. Same cry as when I woke up from anesthesia. Few years ago after gallbladder removal. It was just like a confused/scared cry!
Something told me to just calm down so I started focusing on my breathing and telling myself to fight this off. After a few minutes I felt totally fine! I set up slowly and set up for a few then stood up! I felt FINE like nothing happened except I was real shaky all over and had pressure in back of head like always and I was a lil bit dizzy but not bad!
It scared the mess out of us! I don't know what happened! The only thing I can think of is maybe I had lack of oxygen?? I'm a big girl and my husband was putting a lot off pressure on my stomach and chest so that's the only thing I can think of it being?
Has anything like this ever happened to you? Do you know what it could have been from?
For me my head, neck, arms, back and legs just hurt really bad. I do enjoy sex with my husband though, but usually during sex I feel like I am going to vomit as well as terrible pains in my belly. The belly pain even continues sometimes for days after. He has a good size but is not oversized either. Over the last few years orgasms are out of this world. It's like my body is in an uncontrollable frenzy and all the nerves down in my vagina is activated. This never used to happen at least not like that. It is an amazing out of this world feeling and sensation that brings me to tears, tears that I cannot control. I don't know if it is natural but my husband and I both love it.
with me after sex, im so washed out, it takes acouple of days to get over it, im always more weak and tired, and breathing feels laboured.
during sex i find its hard to move my muscles the way i use to, my arms hurt, my concern doing intercorse is sometimes my orgasims, hurt, the feel ennoying, or i can get there, this is new to me, im very sexual, and to have the changes can be frastrating, i also get dizzy or cant breath, but it doesnt matter what position that is, it just happens and then gone, after sex i can sometimes feel like my head is spinning and buzzing, it *****, i feel there are somedays where you dont enjoy life, and just one thing that makes you alittle bit happy, is sometimes snatched away, i get really angry, its just another thing that this is controlling,,,,,hahahah i feel better now, having a moan
during sex i find its hard to move my muscles the way i use to, my arms hurt, my concern doing intercorse is sometimes my orgasims, hurt, the feel ennoying, or i can get there, this is new to me, im very sexual, and to have the changes can be frastrating, i also get dizzy or cant breath, but it doesnt matter what position that is, it just happens and then gone, after sex i can sometimes feel like my head is spinning and buzzing, it *****, i feel there are somedays where you dont enjoy life, and just one thing that makes you alittle bit happy, is sometimes snatched away, i get really angry, its just another thing that this is controlling,,,,,hahahah i feel better now, having a moan
OMG - i jus thought this way me ... sooo glad some others have written this..
i find when i get far too excited n the bouncin around jus seems jus to kill 'the moment' for me which is actually jus makin me go off sex altogther which is pants as well im only 28yrs nearly and hoped to hav a few years left in me yet. ive felt exactly how people hav discribed in here, i go all light headed , spacey and not with it - weird and scarey yet annoyin! ive tried different positions but me fella kinda likes 'spoons' which for me doesnt kick it either - so right now im in a position where i jus dont want it. :-(
any advice for me please - certainly be welcomed!
emz
i find when i get far too excited n the bouncin around jus seems jus to kill 'the moment' for me which is actually jus makin me go off sex altogther which is pants as well im only 28yrs nearly and hoped to hav a few years left in me yet. ive felt exactly how people hav discribed in here, i go all light headed , spacey and not with it - weird and scarey yet annoyin! ive tried different positions but me fella kinda likes 'spoons' which for me doesnt kick it either - so right now im in a position where i jus dont want it. :-(
any advice for me please - certainly be welcomed!
emz
Lovely---I don't think it would make it worse to the point of having to have to go through surgery just may make symptoms worse for a lil while
Lu---good advice lol
Lu---good advice lol
This may sound crazy but this is one area hiari helped me out. My husband and inwere never very adventurous but now we were forced to try didfereent ways and it is nice!!!!! I found that missinary is out for so
many reasons but a row of pillows for support and Knees work really well and everything is supported
Make it a fun experiment and try different positions an if they don't feel comfortable switch. Hey. The Internet has Kama sutra in printable forms. Bring a pen and start crossing off.
Goo luck and hope it works
many reasons but a row of pillows for support and Knees work really well and everything is supported
Make it a fun experiment and try different positions an if they don't feel comfortable switch. Hey. The Internet has Kama sutra in printable forms. Bring a pen and start crossing off.
Goo luck and hope it works
Sooo glad someone brought up this topic! This is one that I have been wondering about and too afraid to bring it up cuz I was afraid it would seem inappropriate!!
I have not had surgery and since I was diagnosed in March, I have been extremely careful in all of my day to day activities and try to not do anything jarring cuz i am petrified of making my condition worse! However, I am 21 and engaged living with my fiancee.... and absolutely do not want to give up this activitiy too!!
Ive been wondering.. is sex dangerious for my chiari? They say to avoid jarring so is having sex hard on it?? sometimes i get dizzy during sex but it goes away right away... im just wondering if the jarring will make my chiari worse and bring me closer to needing surgery...
I cant lay on my back cuz i get severe dizziness/vertigo.. so obviously missionary and me on bottom positions are out! lol
Just curious what everyone else thinks!
I have not had surgery and since I was diagnosed in March, I have been extremely careful in all of my day to day activities and try to not do anything jarring cuz i am petrified of making my condition worse! However, I am 21 and engaged living with my fiancee.... and absolutely do not want to give up this activitiy too!!
Ive been wondering.. is sex dangerious for my chiari? They say to avoid jarring so is having sex hard on it?? sometimes i get dizzy during sex but it goes away right away... im just wondering if the jarring will make my chiari worse and bring me closer to needing surgery...
I cant lay on my back cuz i get severe dizziness/vertigo.. so obviously missionary and me on bottom positions are out! lol
Just curious what everyone else thinks!
Thank you jennyfoo! I'll check it out! And I'm with ya on the not letting chiari take away my sex life! Hopefully won't happen!
And thank you cmoeller seems like u felt much the same way! ... I'll keep all these tip in mind! ;)
And thank you cmoeller seems like u felt much the same way! ... I'll keep all these tip in mind! ;)
Found it! **this is medical information and not pornographic of nature**
http://www.orthop.washington.edu/uw/livingwith/tabID__3370/ItemID__99/PageID__152/Articles/Default.aspx
Position 4 from the illustrations works well for us-modified with legs sciscored instead of both on top.
In person, I'd never talk about this stuff. I love the Internet. Lol!
http://www.orthop.washington.edu/uw/livingwith/tabID__3370/ItemID__99/PageID__152/Articles/Default.aspx
Position 4 from the illustrations works well for us-modified with legs sciscored instead of both on top.
In person, I'd never talk about this stuff. I love the Internet. Lol!
I'm with Carolyn on the possible reasons. I too had a scare last week. After sex, I got up to use the bathroom(good habit to avoid UTIs, of which I've only ever had 2) and my legs simply collapsed under me. I grabbed the bed and 1/2 fell, 1/2 pulled myself onto the bed so I wouldn't hit the floor. I was so incredibly out of it, spaced out, room we spinning, all I could do was whimper and cry, much like you described for awhile, while my hubby freaked out, especially since I couldn't respond. He was about to call 911, but I was able to grab him to stop him by that time. I was coming out of it. It was like an out-of-body experience for me. It was like I was aware of everything that was happening, but couldn't do anything. It was very scary. I make sure I wait awhile before I try to get up now.
My hubby and I are both big people and we have a very active sex life. I'm not willing to let chiari take that from me yet. Lol. I make sure my head and neck are supported and I try not to bend my head back much. Um, also no hubby on top- too much weight/ strain. We had to stop that when I ruptured a disc and had back surgery 2+ yrs ago. Let me see if I can find the link to the website that my dr told me about that has sex positions for spinal injuries. I think they apply here, since you need to make sure your upper spine, neck, and head are aligned and supported. I tend to lose posts if I navigate away from a window on my iPhone, so I'll post it as a different post when I find it.
My hubby and I are both big people and we have a very active sex life. I'm not willing to let chiari take that from me yet. Lol. I make sure my head and neck are supported and I try not to bend my head back much. Um, also no hubby on top- too much weight/ strain. We had to stop that when I ruptured a disc and had back surgery 2+ yrs ago. Let me see if I can find the link to the website that my dr told me about that has sex positions for spinal injuries. I think they apply here, since you need to make sure your upper spine, neck, and head are aligned and supported. I tend to lose posts if I navigate away from a window on my iPhone, so I'll post it as a different post when I find it.
Hello
To me it sounds like there was some interruption of nerve function and as well as we all know...everything we do in our lives has to do with nerves and how they function:)
Two things...before I knew I had Chiari, when I was pregnant with my 3rd, I absolutely could not lie on my back and have the baby's weight on me. If I did, I would feel like I was going to pass out and I would have trouble breathing. I believe it was because the weight was putting stress on the spinal cord causing it to stretch which would cause a bigger interruption of CSF flow (pulling the herniation downward). The same could have happened from your husband's weight.
Secondly, if you were lying on your back and had your head tipped back, that could have also caused more of a blockage. There are several of us here who have had an immediate worsening of symptoms after we have our heads in that position.
I know it won't be as romantic but you really need to set yourself up so that your neck and head are comfortable and that your body positioning is comfortable too. Also, sex is actually a big stress on the body and can cause things to act up so I would really discuss this with your Dr and get clearance before I would try again.
I hope this helps!
Carolyn
To me it sounds like there was some interruption of nerve function and as well as we all know...everything we do in our lives has to do with nerves and how they function:)
Two things...before I knew I had Chiari, when I was pregnant with my 3rd, I absolutely could not lie on my back and have the baby's weight on me. If I did, I would feel like I was going to pass out and I would have trouble breathing. I believe it was because the weight was putting stress on the spinal cord causing it to stretch which would cause a bigger interruption of CSF flow (pulling the herniation downward). The same could have happened from your husband's weight.
Secondly, if you were lying on your back and had your head tipped back, that could have also caused more of a blockage. There are several of us here who have had an immediate worsening of symptoms after we have our heads in that position.
I know it won't be as romantic but you really need to set yourself up so that your neck and head are comfortable and that your body positioning is comfortable too. Also, sex is actually a big stress on the body and can cause things to act up so I would really discuss this with your Dr and get clearance before I would try again.
I hope this helps!
Carolyn
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