Tears in public

[amelia133]

Tonight I just snapped whilst trying to put my coat on and not being able to.

One week post op and I let it all out! From the moment I got diagnosed I've moaned and complained but not once cried about all of this. I've refused to give any tears to this horrible thing that came into my life with no warning!

But tonight the floodgates opened and my eyes haven't stopped dribbling.

All because I didn't have the upperbody strength to put my coat on!

Think I have learned tonight it's ok to cry and maybe I'm allowed after this week and what my body and brain have gone through! This time last week I was in a High dependency unit following my decompression and it feels like a lifetime since it all.

I am shattered all the time but ha have lessened and I haven't had hiccups, hoarse voice or choky cough since (they were constant before!) which is a plus to everything.

It's been good to have a cry :)

[Rylanesmom]

I bust into tears so easily these days but just thought of a time last summer that might give you a laugh.  My husband, kids, and I went to the ice cream parlor and I had my heart set on chocolate fudge with marshmallow topping like when I was a little girl.  It had been a bad day.  They were out and the flood gates opened LOL.  I had to leave.  Funny now .... And no I did not choose a substitute ice cream.

[linnielou232]

This is something I have learned in my journey through all of this.  It's o.k. to show your emotion's and most of all asking other's for help.  I was alway's the one doing for other's.  As a wise man told me through all of this.  It's ok for other's to help us for a change.  I felt so quilty about this for a long time, but I think it was God's way of showing me something I needed to learn.  Patient's, other's help.  Apprecitate the little thing's in life.  I very much appreciate all of everyone's support through all of these tough times.

[cash242]

for me I am super independent and I don't ask for help which frustrates my so dedicated husband revovery stinks I am glad I have you guys.

[selmaS]

  well put Molly....if we do not let others see how we are affected we can not expect them to know .....

  

[soccero]

i hate hate hate crying in public but sometimes its a must not only for u but for other people and friends to get more of a real look in our lives! it ***** but just something we have to learn to accept along with everything else lol
molly

[amelia133]

Ive not been afraid just more stubborn to cry! Thankyou for your support, I'm still learning my once super independent self needs to remember to allow others to help!

Thankyou once again always!

[cash242]

I can so relate to you, had decompression 10 months ago and am 3 days post op for neck fusion and I lost it  last night also been a long year and I am so done with this, recovery stinks hang in there and I am right there with you my headaches have gone away but I can't celebrate that as my neck hurts so bad.take care

[linnielou232]

I have to say.  Poor Selma and Thank God for her.  She has helped me through this hole process.  From deciding on surgery to all the stages.  It is ok to cry.  It makes you feel better and it does let all that emotion out.  I am and never have been one that is afraid to cry. but I guess I am in the final stage of acceptance which has been the worse one for me to understand it and to except it.  As Selma said to me before.  Having Chairi surgery isn't a fix.  Once chairian alway's will have it.  This was hard for me to swollow.  Just wanted to let you know I'm here for you through this rough stage.  I know how hard it can get.  I'm a person who thought.  "Have surgery, bamm.  Feel better".  Doesn't work that way for some.  The most important thing I have to stress is don't lift, bend anything.  As slema said you suffer for it.  I felt so great I was changing my bedding after 10 day's and doing laundry.   "Mistake".  Went through 3 more surgies because of bad choices.  Just relax and listen to your body.  It will let you know what you can do and can't do.  Hope you have a good day today.

[selmaS]

  If there is one thing I did learn in my chiari journey is this, the whole post op experience is in stages...we go thru denial, anger, grief, and finally acceptance.

And u have to cry  to move thru the stage of grief.

Just do not cry too much as it will give u a HA!

U r so early in ur recovery and I also have learned it takes time...so give urself that time do not try to do things b4 ur body is ready other wise u will suffer set backs.....

  But allow urself to go thru the stages and keep a journal so u can see the improvements when they  occur.

  I pray this is the only thing that makes u cry.....

      "selma"