With your son's symptoms and the strong family history of depression, he very likely is manifesting depressive disorder. Such absence of motivation and lack of interest in peer relationships is not at all typical for a ten-year-old. An additional possibility (which can occur alongside depresion) is that he displays an inattentive form of Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
It would make sense to have him assessed by a child mental health professional. The diagnosis can be clarified and, if pertinent, medication and other interventions can be planned.
I have a 10 year old who was diagnosed with ADHD at age 4. He has not been on his ritalin for the past two months because I was concerned that it was affecting his sociability. He said it made him "shy" and that doesn't fly well with 10year old boys. I guess he lacks motivation as well. He loves to be active and plays all kinds of sports but when it comes to the "friend" thing he doesn't seem to care either. He complains sometimes that he doesn't have friends, but he doesn't seem motivated to do anything about it. Rather, he tends to say that he just doesn't like the boys at school because of one reason or another. He also shys away from experiences where there will be other kids he doesn't know. I am not sure what to do either. I don't want to make a big deal of it because maybe he is just socially immature and in time he will be more motivated to get involved with other kids his own age.
I have a 10 year old boy in my home who is also not motivated by anything unless it is playing with stuffed animals, watching TV (mostly cartoons) or playing with young children. He is having extreme difficulties with learning in school and is disliked by both girls and boys his age. The older kids in the neighborhood have asked if he was "retarded" and I have had adults approach me with questions about whether or not he is "right". He has been caught lying (many, many times) and stealing. He seems to be in a make believe world and unless he is being yelled at by his father or spanked, he doesn't seem to care about correcting his behavior. I feel my hands are tied because his father feels that as long as his son is seeing a counselor, things will get better. He speaks as if he's 5 years old and we have had problems with hygiene issues. He really doesn't seem to care about learning or correcting his behavior. I'm exhausted from observing his behavior and he has a jeckyl and hyde personality. Share your thoughts with me, please.