I have been separated from my husband for over 8 months. I started dating soon after the separation and my boyfriend recently moved in with me. I have split custody (1 week on 1 week off) of my two children daughter age 7, son age 10. When the kids are with me my boyfriend sleeps in his own room and the kids sleep with me. On occassion my daughter elects to sleep in her own room, but my son adamently refuses to. I have not pushed this issue since I know he needs the time and cuddling with me. I also don't want him to feel that my bf means more to me then they do.
My son has recently taken to policing my moves, he doesn't like it when me and bf kiss so we have limited our physical touches and kisses when the kids are there. Yesterday after I got out of the shower bf came in to give me a mug of tea and get some aspirin. My son imediately jumped out of bed and came in to see if I was dressed. He told me that he could not handle the thought of my bf seeing my privates.He said he feels like killing himself over this becasue the thought bothers him so much. He can not explain why he feels this way. He claims it is not jealousy, he doesn't feel like bf would hurt me in any way, he just can't handle the thought of this. He also said it would bother him just as much if his dad were to get a girl friend and be intimate with her.
My son is very intelligent, he has a very high IQ and although he is only in 5th grade his reading skills and comprehension are at an 11th grade levevl. He understands complex issues in ways that a 10 year old shouldn't have to deal with yet, so I really don't know how to tackle this problem. Although he is mentally very advanced for his age he is not emotionally advanced.
Any help would be appreciated, if you need more info let me know. Thanks