10 years old and still I get no respect.

[bambee24]

My daughter will be 11 years old in April an she still has no respect for me. I don't like to hit her since all the books I read say that is not the answer. I have taken T.V and Cpu away. but still she seems to talk back and fights me all the time. She would yell at me and tell me to Zip it up. I in a calm voice tell her not to talk to me that way that I am her mother and to respect me. When I really get mad and take away the chocolate and TV and CPU then her had like a tantrum on the couch. This is when I ignore her.
Sometimes she want to wake up in the morning when we are in a rush and wants to take a shower and I know this would make me late for work and her for school. This turns out to be another fight as to why not? It takes me about 3 mins to get her to start getting reading and stop saying that she wants to take a shower.
I am so glad I have just one child, I don't think I could of handled two of this.
She is the only child also. Which might be part of the problem. Please Help Me.
Some people say pull out the belt and use it. But I think that will just pull her away from me.
I still have time to fix her don't I. Thank you. Bambee24

[bambee24]

Who is going to hold her down to put the apple cider vinegar in her mouth?
Plus we drive about 45 mins. for her school so that would mean I would have to get her up about 5:30 am instead of 6:00a,m for her to shower in the morning. I think that is too early for a little one.
But I will try one day and see what happens. Thanks, Bambee

[redneckmom]

You have made your daughter this way.  The next time she gets mouthy with you put apple-cider vinegar in her mouth.  I find it works much better if you make them dip their own finger in it and put it into their own mouths.  No this is not harmful; just gross.  Do you have any sort of routine?  If she wants to take a shower why doesn't she set her alarm for a half hour earlier and get her little tushy in the shower?  Also, if she didn't shower the night before why don't you as her mother realize she will want a morning shower and get up early to accomidate for this?  You have to be the parent.  Sign up for a parenting class and stop letting your daughter run your household.  This will only get worse as she gets older.  Remember that punishments need to fit their crimes.  You should take the tv away if she doesn't respect the tv.  You take the computer away if she doesn't respect the computer.  Good luck and you have to be persistant.