I agree that allegations of sexual activity between children should be taken seriously. At the same time, its not abnormal or unusual for children to engage in sex play. We need to be realistic about that. It can be damaging to chastise a child without knowing what the complete circumstances are. If there are concerns about sex abuse, the child protective services needs to be contacted and the child offender and victime need treatment.
Glad to hear that things are getting better for you and your children.
I am a strong believer in ruling out anything inappropriate when it comes to children because you seriously never know. If a flag comes up, I never tell a parent to ignore it. Maybe it's because I've seen a lot of true molestation/sexual abuse case scenarios with the same flags. Best of luck to you both.
I agree with Cleveland Mom. I'm going thru a similar situation right now, mine's a little differant my kids are 3 and 5 but the accusations made by my 3yr olds dad are similar. He brought me to court over it saying my 5 yr old was sexually abusing him. Needless to say, it got thrown out of court. Children are curious, especially younger children. I would not say at all that this should be considered sexual abuse or molestation. Again, I agree with Cleveland Mom about dealing with the self esteem, try and get him in for some counceling for that.
I would however let your son's cousins parents know about the situation so they are aware of it and can redirect is behavior and possibly talk to him about what happened. If you are still concerned with the situation, let me know. I have some very good information that I got from a lisenced sexual abuse therapist. She was highly recommended by the judge in my case, I can let ya know some of the things she said pertaining to child behaviors such as described in your post. Best wishes.
I can imagine that you are upset about this. Please, don't make too big of a deal about it. Kids are curious about their sexuality and its not unusual for them to engage is sex play. Since you feel he has low self-esteem, its very important that you focus on that. Its easier to deal with low-self esteem prior to the teen years as oppossed to during or after. Talk to your son's doctor about a referral for a child/family therapist. Smart parents no when they cannot handle certain issues with their kids and seek appropriate help. Best wishes...
It sounds like your son would greatly benefit from seeing a therapist. Please take him to someone who specializes in child development and play therapy. This is not normal exploration, and has been taught to him. As a result, he is mimicking the behavior on the younger cousin. This is a sign of sexual abuse/molestation.
In addition, you are describing a child who is acting out and has multiple issues that he is dealing with on a daily basis. Therapy can greatly help him. He has the right to live a happy childhood. Best wishes to you and your family.
PS. Although this is a sensitive thing that you have learned, thank god that your family walked in on the children and were able to share this is information with you now, so that you can get help for your son.