We don't know very much about her early life other than she went into foster care at 1 year old and was placed with a family that just adored her. They allowed her to do and say whatever she wanted. Her brother was placed with the same family after a while but they were not as kind to him, they thought he was difficult. When we met the kids she was very open and friendly but he was reserved and quiet. They seem to have reversed roles now though. Our son has many friends, is always ready with a smile and people just take to him. He has stolen a few small items in the past, packs of gum, but never anything like she has and now that he is 13 this has been over for a while. Our daughter loves her brother very much and they have a great relationship, though sometimes it does seem a bit lop-sided, he does a lot for her, plays the games she wants to and caters to her. We have two older sons (17 and 15) and she gets along well with them also. She is the youngest and the only girl. She has always been small for her age and is very cute. I am afraid that we never expected her to do as much as the boys did at her age and we probably overlooked a lot of things because she always seemed so little. we wised up though and started requiring her to do the same types of things as the boys, keeping her room clean, helping with dishes and laundry. She has always been very sneaky though and tries to get out of things or get her brothers to do things for her. I have wondered about Reactive Attachment Disorder with her. Also, in the last year we have had a diagnosis of ADD for which she takes Concerta. It has seemed to help during school hours with her attention. She will be going to see a new counselor very soon. Thank you for your help.
I think you should get some councselling for your Daughter, she is obviously upset and needs some help.There are several serious pointers to this, it would be a good idea to get her checked by a Doctor , I feel she needs to talk to someone. .
Wow - this is pretty intense. Do you know much about her life before she was adopted? Sometimes if a child suffers a bad trauma very early in life - it can affect her for years and years..