Hi, my daughter is 14 years old. Shes very boyish. And has been since she was around 7.In first grade, she was kind of boyish, wore jeans all the time with baggy sweat shirts and sneakers. She had long hair, that was about down to her elbows. Second grade changed completely, she started skateboarding. No tricks, just riding around the house. She never, ever wanted to wear skirts. But, she was a child to listen to almost anything I said. She was very afraid of disappointing me. (My oldest daughter criticized her for being boyish, and I was very hopeful she would be an extreme 'girly-girl.') About the middle of the school year, she started talking to this girl Jordan in her class, who was also very boyish. And had EXTREMELY short hair.. Once my daughter knew that girls could get that short of hair, she begged me for it. I told her she could only get to her chin. But, she found a way around it. She told the hair stylist that she wanted it to the top of her ears.
Oh, and the stylist did it. I was furious, she looked like a boy! I didn't want her to look like that. I wanted to have her look like a girl. She started hanging out with almost all boys. She played with hot wheels, action figures, watched batman. She even begged me for 3 years for a boy's bike.In 3rd grade she grew her hair to about her chin, she wasn't constantly getting bullied. And she was a VERY sensitive child, she couldn't take it. She started skipping school. She learned it from this boy she hung out with who was 10. She ended up getting very detached, for about 6 months. She completely grew her hair back out to her elbows. Fifth grade, she got held back. She got her boy bike, and started riding that around. She got back into skateboarding, and jeans. Now, she seems very depressed, she's talking about binding her chest. Confused about her sexuality. She wants to get boy haircuts. And she's dressed like a boy at friends, and was happy. I asked her which she liked more, she said she doesn't know. Help?