Unfortunately, from a developmental point of view she is not really ready to be in her own bed - this is true of many two-year-olds. They should still be in a crib (likely with raised sides). However, you are beyond that. So there is no substitute to 'biting the bullet' and sticking with the insistence that she remain in her bed. You will lose sleep - that is part of being a parent and helping children through the various developmenatl challenges. There are no shortcuts. If you have decided that you do not want her in your bed (I thinkt hatis the best decision), be sure you stay faithful to that. If you permit her to come in, even once a week, for example, you'll perpetuate the problem.
She went to sleep in her bed first try last night for the first time. Still woke up with her in our bed but she didn't come in there until an hour before time to get up. Life is looking good.
It sounds as if she may still need to be in a crib. A crib tent will keep her from climbing/falling out.
Tonight she was asleep by eleven in her bed but still just as tiring. Any ideas?