I got served with divorced papers by my husband over a month ago. He came into the house with 3 strange men. Served me and him and the men immediately started packing his belongings and packed the furniture he wanted into a truck. Dad has a 16 year old daughter, which was my stepdaughter, he immediately started packing her belongings and told her to get into the truck. My 3 year was in the house while this was happening and she was frantic, crying asking why the men are taking our things "why is daddy taking my sister away?", "Why is daddy angry?" Why is
daddy taking the tv" She kept on asking these questions while all of this was happening. She was crying, running around, I eventually caught her and held her and we were crying together with the 16 year old saying our goodbuys. The dad ignored everything and he left with his 16 year old daughter. We did not hear from him for 5 days. He then started making demands on a visitation schedule for 3 days with him, 3 days with me. I refused, since this is would cause even more stress in my daughter's life, since he was an absent father as well as her grandmother (my mom) is watching her during the day while I work, since she was born. To take her away from what she knows would have devistated her. We agreed to a on night during the week sleepover and him seeing her every other weekend. He has access to call her every night, which he does but she is now refusing to speak to him on the phone. She screams and yells and says "no I dont want to speak to daddy." She also, more than once a day, will say that "daddy was mean, he took all our stuff"... if she cannot find a toy, she will say "daddy and the men took my toys." I know that the dad served me and her observing the chaos that night and the change has affected her tremendously. My question is, will it have such an effect on her for me to get professional help for her? And to what extend will this effect her? Any other suggestions on visitation?