3 year old acting out in scarymanner

[skynbrook]

My three year old screams and hyperventilates it start when she was 2 I oroganlly thought it was because she was spoiled cause I work full time but now she's beginning to scare me I try ignoreing it but she gets worse she will now start pulling her hair pulling her skin and picking her fingers till they bleed I made a doctors apt but before I go please I'm begging for some. Advice what could this be? Is there medication for it? Very concerned mother

[metalife]

has she been evaluated for autism?

[AnnieBrooke]

I don't want to sound overly suspicious, but don't pooh-pooh the possibility of some kind of harmful or abusive situation when she is not in your care.  

[RockRose]

I agree with Annie,  this is a concern and the first place to look would be her daycare situation.

I am curious,  though,  about your comment that you thought she was just spoiled because you work full time?  I'm not sure I get what you're saying - "spoiled" children are considered ones who always get everything handed to them - I would think a child of a mother who works full time wouldn't be considered "spoiled".

[skynbrook]

Hergrandparents watch her while Im working (thats what i meam by spoiled) they said she started doing the same thing over there also me and my husband don't fight and there is no tension in the house hold for her to be acting out in such a manner it just popped up all of a sudden she tells me everything when I ask her why she does that she says idk Mommy I'm just very concerned I have made her a doc apt  

[AnnieBrooke]

Has she been checked by a doctor for any physical disorder or evidence of the need for a mental-health evaluation?  When reading about reactions so extreme, I always wonder (failing any obvious medical evidence of a disorder) if a child who is being cared for by someone else is being harmed while in care, or harmed by someone the child is exposed to at home.  If that is the case, now that she is 3, she should be old enough to tell you at least some of it, unless she has been conditioned to think it is just the way life is and nothing will happen if she does.