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3 year old circle time problems / not listening at preschool
My daughter will be three in two weeks. She had gone to preschool two days a week for two hours since this past Sept. She refuses to sit for circle time and is disruptive. The teacher's aide has resorted to holding my (struggling to break free) child during circle time. She only follows directions when she chooses to listen. I don't know what to do.
The teacher have asked if an early interventionist could come see my child at school. So I sat in class out of site and observed. My child behaved until circle time came. The teacher's aide held her to keep her in the circle and prevent her from disrupting others. After circle time she played well with other, but after hand washing for snack she sprung from the bathroom and pushed three kids. Then at some point before leaving she began running around the classroom, not listening to the teachers when they told her to stop. Finally, there was a second circle which was cut short. My child wouldn't sit, but neither would other children at this point. My child spotted me watching her and ran to me, I quickly told her to sit in circle because I didn't like her behavior and she sat in circle in her spot and listened until class was over!!!! I don't know what to do.
I don't want the interventionist to work with my daughter in class because I'm aware of tracking and labels put on children. I made an appointment with a clinical social worker to help us with her behavior. My husband and I are trying to improve discipline at home, but part of me just says she's 3. Three year old do this as they are learning to deal with the world. But if her behavior is so different from most kids in class, is there a problem.
I can homeschool if necessary, but I want her to be part of a school environment. Would love any advice.
The teacher have asked if an early interventionist could come see my child at school. So I sat in class out of site and observed. My child behaved until circle time came. The teacher's aide held her to keep her in the circle and prevent her from disrupting others. After circle time she played well with other, but after hand washing for snack she sprung from the bathroom and pushed three kids. Then at some point before leaving she began running around the classroom, not listening to the teachers when they told her to stop. Finally, there was a second circle which was cut short. My child wouldn't sit, but neither would other children at this point. My child spotted me watching her and ran to me, I quickly told her to sit in circle because I didn't like her behavior and she sat in circle in her spot and listened until class was over!!!! I don't know what to do.
I don't want the interventionist to work with my daughter in class because I'm aware of tracking and labels put on children. I made an appointment with a clinical social worker to help us with her behavior. My husband and I are trying to improve discipline at home, but part of me just says she's 3. Three year old do this as they are learning to deal with the world. But if her behavior is so different from most kids in class, is there a problem.
I can homeschool if necessary, but I want her to be part of a school environment. Would love any advice.
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I desire to decide that Phoenix preschool for my baby where he could learn writing skills by means of six character writing program. Is it a great agenda? Stipulation yes than please provide me contact detail of best preschool.
Oh, sorry. We went to an occupational therapist for evaluation. Call around and ask for sensory integration disorder experience. We've had tremendous success with occupational therapy and I highly recommend it!
Thanks for responding. The question is how do we determine what the child is suffering from..will a Occupational therapy help or should i go to child psychiatric...Really tired of the complaints from school and handling my son on daily basis..He does not listen to a single thing told by us..
Hi there. We had the exact same problems in preschool with my own son. Ugh, I feel for you. I dreaded what each day at school would bring.
My son was diagnosed with sensory integration disorder. What a blessing this diagnosis was because it helped me understand what was going on. And we were able to do things that helped him. By addressing things when he was in the preschool years, he was much better able to cope and be successful when he started elementary school.
Things that helped in school was giving my son choices. Lots of choices. Such as: do you want to sit on the carpet spot next to Mary or do you want to pull up a chair next to the teacher?" He will cope better if he feels he has some control. If it is his turn to pass out napkins for snack "do you want to pass them out or do you want me to?" If it is time to walk to music "do you want to walk by Jonny or do you want to walk by teacher?"
He should be given a healthy amount of physical activity. He needs to be climbing, running, jumping, rolling down hills and running back up, swinging, etc. This is very key to helping a child maintain themselves in school. AT school, they should have some go to things he can do when he gets wound up, is wandering, etc. This would be taking two other kids and have them do leap frog down the hallway. Have all the kids do some animal walks such as crab, leap frog, bear. Have him 'help' by carrying some books for the teacher or moving a table. When walking to the playground, have the kids march with their feet slapping the ground with impact. While this may sound goofy, it helps tremendously.
He should have a 'cool' down spot in the classroom that he can go to when he starts to feel upset. This is a safe place where he can go to calm down. When he starts to look upset say "you look upset, maybe your cool down spot will help." Under a table, in a corner, a small pop up tent, a bean bag chair, etc. are all good cool down spots. He can also have 'helping hands' on the wall. Use finger paint and have him make his hand prints on them. When he is starting to rev up, tell him to find his helping hands. Then he presses his hands against them (they should be placed at his level on the wall and you could do the whole class so he isn't singled out)--- and he pushes hard against them. This slows the nervous system.
That is the thing, his nervous system may be out of whack. I would look at this site "sensory processing disorder" and see what you think. If it connects at all, get back to me. I have lots of suggestions.
Sleep is tricky for a sensory kid. Lots of activity (physical) during the day helps. Then you can begin his bed time routine. Make it calming. Dim lights, warm and cozy. Before bed, provide some deep pressure such as holding him tightly while you rock him or have him lay face down on the floor and rolling an exercise ball over him with pressure or placing pillows on him and pushing down with pressure. Very soothing. You can also look into a weighted blanket which really helps some kids sleep. Even a weighted lap pad placed on his chest may help.
good luck
My son was diagnosed with sensory integration disorder. What a blessing this diagnosis was because it helped me understand what was going on. And we were able to do things that helped him. By addressing things when he was in the preschool years, he was much better able to cope and be successful when he started elementary school.
Things that helped in school was giving my son choices. Lots of choices. Such as: do you want to sit on the carpet spot next to Mary or do you want to pull up a chair next to the teacher?" He will cope better if he feels he has some control. If it is his turn to pass out napkins for snack "do you want to pass them out or do you want me to?" If it is time to walk to music "do you want to walk by Jonny or do you want to walk by teacher?"
He should be given a healthy amount of physical activity. He needs to be climbing, running, jumping, rolling down hills and running back up, swinging, etc. This is very key to helping a child maintain themselves in school. AT school, they should have some go to things he can do when he gets wound up, is wandering, etc. This would be taking two other kids and have them do leap frog down the hallway. Have all the kids do some animal walks such as crab, leap frog, bear. Have him 'help' by carrying some books for the teacher or moving a table. When walking to the playground, have the kids march with their feet slapping the ground with impact. While this may sound goofy, it helps tremendously.
He should have a 'cool' down spot in the classroom that he can go to when he starts to feel upset. This is a safe place where he can go to calm down. When he starts to look upset say "you look upset, maybe your cool down spot will help." Under a table, in a corner, a small pop up tent, a bean bag chair, etc. are all good cool down spots. He can also have 'helping hands' on the wall. Use finger paint and have him make his hand prints on them. When he is starting to rev up, tell him to find his helping hands. Then he presses his hands against them (they should be placed at his level on the wall and you could do the whole class so he isn't singled out)--- and he pushes hard against them. This slows the nervous system.
That is the thing, his nervous system may be out of whack. I would look at this site "sensory processing disorder" and see what you think. If it connects at all, get back to me. I have lots of suggestions.
Sleep is tricky for a sensory kid. Lots of activity (physical) during the day helps. Then you can begin his bed time routine. Make it calming. Dim lights, warm and cozy. Before bed, provide some deep pressure such as holding him tightly while you rock him or have him lay face down on the floor and rolling an exercise ball over him with pressure or placing pillows on him and pushing down with pressure. Very soothing. You can also look into a weighted blanket which really helps some kids sleep. Even a weighted lap pad placed on his chest may help.
good luck
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