3 year old grandaughter see things we don't

[worriedmommom]

She just turned 3 a few days ago, she sees people and talks to them she tells things a 3 year should'nt even know, and several times she wakes up scared and won't sleep in her room her mom brings her out in the living room to sleep i know her mom is exhausted, at first we thought maybe she sees people that died but iam starting to think something more is going on, often she will tilt her head and the stares with this blank look on her face and we go to talk to her and she does'nt replie. i hope iam looking to much into this but i feel something is'nt right , i don't want to over react and scare my daughter do think i have a reason to be concern? or its just something she will grow out of?

[tiredbuthappy]

I have worked with young children for over a decade, and I can tell you stories that would give you chills. Things that cannot be explained logically, and occurring in grounded, otherwise typical families. Some children do see spirits. I even have 2 close friends who had that ability as children, and still do to a certain extent today. I'm not here to spread voodoo or anything (I am a long time poster and rarely touch on this topic and would like to think that I am somewhat rational and reliable).

Anyways, I can't say that this is what is happening, but I wouldn't rule it out. Start noting the types of comments made, where, and anything else significant that might have happened that day. You may see a pattern that gives a more traditional answer like a subconscious response to stressful situations. From what I gather, these spirits generally don't follow the person. Does she have these experiences with Jimmy outside of the house? To satisfy your curiosity, look up town records and see if there ever was a fire in the area in which a child names Jimmy died.

Even not knowing the source (dreams, anxiety, paranormal, etc) I can say that this is not a time to make her feel ashamed about what she seeing, or thinking she sees. I would not ask questions to bring it up, but if she does bring it up you can ask gentle questions. I would focus on things like "and how did you feel when he told you that." Having her shut the people she trusts out because she is embarrassed or thinks it is wrong can prevent her from sharing important things with you. I would listen and gently question, and be sure not to suggest anything. Document what she tells you. If you rule out medical causes and feel it is getting out of control, you can consult a medium to give you more advice on how to handle it. One particularly sensitive child that I worked with was taught how to control when they were allowed to approach her. Or you can google "helping a child who sees spirits."

Good luck, and I would be curious to know how things progress. Obviously rule out medical first, but also be sure to consider other possibilities and to nurture and support her as you find solutions. If you are comfortable, you may want to ask other family members or look further back in your family's history. Often in these cases, you will find other females in the family who have or had the same ability.

[margypops]

It has occurred to me if it was night terrors and a dream ,why do you not see jimmy?

[worriedmommom]

It could be possible when she wakes up during the night, but when she is awake and see these people she is scared to death,

[teddybears4ever2]

Is it possible that she had a very scary dream?  

[margypops]

I know it and I am sure you are all concerned for her I do think your dd  needs some professional opinions here about her daughter.. good luck .

[worriedmommom]

ohcalcutagirl we spend so much time with her and do many things with her, her mom works thats the only time she leaves her this child is her life, they do everything together and no we are not a family where children are to be seen and not heard, my daughters and their children live here with my husband and let me tell you they are everything to each and every one of us,margypops she has a drs appt tomorrow and her mom is going to talk to her about what she has been seeing and saying and hopefully she can let her mom know if she thinks something more is going on with her or maybe its normal behavior iam not sure whats going on but i do know she is very love and not lacking any kind of attention

[ohcalcutagirl]

spend your time with this child as a family member,
turn off tv, computer, radio, games etc
if u go over to daughters THEN spend time with all in family without any outside interruptions or is this a family where children are to be seen and not heard
good luck

[margypops]

I think that something is going on in her life it would be best if you took her to the doctor and tell him what you have said here ..good luck

[worriedmommom]

she told us jimmy her friend burned in a fire and he was in a box and he was pink and brown, she is scared of fire now we could'nt put candles on her cake she screamed before wemeven left to go her party we had to throw them away and when it was time for cake she scream and start shaking she want to go home she was seeing a candle on the cake we kept telling her there was no candle, this has been going on for allmost a year and their has been nothing new in hew life, by the way jimmy is one of her friends we don't see,

[margypops]

Could you tell us what things she tells she should'nt know  could something have upset her recently have there been any new happenings, siblings, new day care any new people in her life ?