3 years old and not potty trained

[sweetheart207]

my daighter is turning three in a couple of days we have now been traing for a whole year she was okay in the begining she would say when she needed to go but the past few months she wont say she needs to go and if she dose shes already gone in her pull up this past week for some reason she gets put on the potty and she gets up and pottys the floor and refuses to sit on the potty now she knows the concept of going i dont understand why she is doing this three years old and still in pull ups sometimes i feel like putting her back in diapers since she refuses do go i have another daughter who is nine months and then iam pregnect with another one i dont know if this could be realated to why she is doin this please help i have tried all i can with her and im at the end of my roap i caint handle haveing a daughter who pees and poops all over my floor to be honest iam disgusted by it im stuck please help what do i do???

[skyeblue50]

My daughter is 3 yrs old and we started potty training when she was 2, she started off great and then refused to poo on the toilet so she would hide behind the door to poo. We introduced jelly babies as a reward, we would give her 3 for pooing on the toilet and it worked. We went camping a month ago and she started to poo her knickers again, this has continued and I've tried rewards, stickers everything and she just won't poo on the toilet at all. Ive run out of ideas, I just dont understand because she was doing so well, anyone else had this?

[specialmom]

Hi there!  This is an older post and often you will get limited responses when postig onto the tail end of a thread.  You'll get more responses if you begin your own thread with a question.  FYI

Anyway, the actual average age of potty training in the United States for boys is 3.5!  That means half of all boys potty train later than that.  I had one who potty trained around 3.5 and another that was later than that.  I too was frustrated but this is one of those areas that kids pretty much have control.

My son that was the later potty trainer had no real interest in doing it.  He'd tell me he was still a baby.  Hm.  He must have really liked being my baby.  I just took all pressure off and didn't even mention it for a period of time.  Then when he was almost FOUR---  I said, hey, would yo get potty trained already??/  And he said, OKAY.  And he was potty trained literally from that moment on.  My other son that trained earlier . . . it was a PROCESS that took forever.  That is the advantage ot a late potty trainer, they get it easier.  

So, I'd just back off for a month.  I'd also, when you try again, have him go into the bathroom with daddy and let him see Daddy going standing up.  My kids pretty quickly went to standing up and peeing.  You can even put cherios in the potty and have him aim.  (weird, but a fun game.)  

I skipped the kiddie potty all together with my second son as I hated cleaning that thing.  Instead, I got a ring that went around the regular toilet.  He picked it out and it made him secure that he won't fall in.  

I'd try not to make a big deal out of his lack of interest.  They all eventually get it-----  so don't worry.  Like I said, it happened pretty much over night wtih my second child.  And it seems like a million years ago that he is now 7.  

So, remember that average age and know he's still within normal.  

good luck, take a deep breath and pretend to him  you don't care!

[bluelibra]

My son is 3years and 8 mos!  Have tried to potty train him 3 different times. Nothing works.  I took him let him pick his own potty, and his fav. Candy. Yesterday I gave him a piece of candy for sitting on the potty. He was scared he fall in and cried. So today he only gets a piece of candy when he pepees or poops in the potty. He still hasnt he is still peeing and pooping his pants. What do u do

[lexchlmoo]

don't put her in pull ups anymore.  let her wear big girl panties.  and talk to her that this is what big girls where or mommie wears big girl panties.  let it be something exciting for her to do.  

she may be feeling jealous or left out with the baby attention, so try to have some one on one time with each child to make them feel special.

my little girl was on her way being potty trained by time she was two or so, but we moved and it was like going backwards.  she started to pee on herself again and didn't want to go.  but after a while and many talks about being a big girl and mommy doesn't pee on herself, she moved on.  plus pull ups are like diapers, so once you take those away she has to deal with the concept of peeing on herself.  she may hate the feeling and start going.  

or some tough love may help.  a friend of mine told her friend's little boy that he smelled cause he wouldn't go to the potty and he was 4 or 5.  plus he would run over his mom.  she kept him for a week and took him to the potty and diapers where  history.  his mom couldn't believe she had him potty trained.

[mrsmills393]

my friends son was 3 and starting pre school in the fall and still wasn't potty trained and she was feeling the same way, he knew what it was for and how to use it and everything, so after the visited the pre school before he started there, she asked him is he wanted to be the only kid in school who had to have his bum changed while all the other kids used the potty and he was potty trained that night.  

[specialmom]

I agree.  Yikes it took forever for my second son to get potty trained.  He had NO interest as he said he was a 'baby' (he is OUR baby at our house and always will be, but that baby stuff was getting old).  I was in the fame of mind as the previous poster. I tried not to get riled up about it as I knew it would happen.  He was healthy and developing fine in every other way.  So I was patient even when it was hard.  Finally, without pressure----  we picked out underwear at the store, I put it in a basket, took off the pull up and left that boy bare bottemed!  I'm not kidding----  he was potty trained in 2 days.  I think because he was older.   So that is one advantage in her being older (by the way, my son got potty trained right after his 4th---- I said 4th birthday!)  He never has accidents and does all his business in the big potty (no potty seats either).  Hang in there, it really will happen.  I understand your worry with ---- oh my gosh----  a 9 month old and another one  on the way!!!  You are one busy mom!!  I hope you are feeling okay during your pregnancy.  I was sick for both of mine which made everything worse.  Oh yeah, one last thing.  As she is a little difficult about the potty right now.  Back off for a week and start over then.  And praise her like she won your family 5 million dollars if she does anything in that potty (even just sit on it!!)  Good luck.

[lily2009]

I didn't think my second child was ever going to be potty trained.  He was nearly in kidnergarten and finally and I mean finally he went on the potty.  My first child was trained about 15 months so needlessto say I was very nervous about the second.  Each child matures at a different rate.  Your child will be trained before he starts school  No fears, some are just slower than others.  I have never seen a child in school with diapers.