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4 year old Potty issues - refuses to do anything to help!!!
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It was comforting to find this site after just typing into google. "my 4 year old won't poop in the potty" and your comments appeared. just to mention I have a 7 year old daughter who potty trained completely at 2 1/2 even at night and has had relatively no accidents since. I didn't do anything different with my son and he has just potty trained pee. He will be 4 on July 31st and just will not go poop in the potty. We have done reward charts with stickers, we have taken away priveledges, and like you said he just accepts it and goes onto the next thing. I have never made him clean his underware but I have actually let him smell the stinky mess. He gets upset when it causes a rash and we explain to him that if he would go on the potty he wouldn't get a rash. Then he promises next time he will do it on the potty and of course NOT!!!! He's very bright and very active and very head strong . I know he knows what he's supose to do but he just won't do it. I have him in a preschool that will still clean him up but was unable to send him to my daughers's private parochial school because he must be trained. My husband and I are are just so frustrated. WE have lost control in this matter and I'm sure he knows it.
If any of you have had this problem, which I know you have. Can you tell me at what age this finally resolved?
If any of you have had this problem, which I know you have. Can you tell me at what age this finally resolved?
I have the same problem as you all!! My son is 4 years old and I am at my wits end as what do to. We have seen a paed for the past 12 months, we have been in hospital with a naso-gastric tube for two days and I have tried rewards, punishiment and a calender on the fridge.
my son talks about going to the toilet and how he does it, flushes and washes his hands, but he just won't actually do it. My doctor doesn't think he needs a psycological test. I to have given up work to help him get thru this but I am running out of patience. we recently moved to the country and now he has a great teacher who wants to help me with this problem instead of pushing my son aside. we have started a new routine of putting him on the toilet morning, lunch and after school but for the past few days he has done poo's in his pants only 15 to 20 mins after this!
I have taken away his toys and put them on top of the fridge so he can see them there but can't have them. After a day he had forgotten about this. Recently I took him to the shops and let him look at toys etc, he choose a Batman Bedspread and Batman shoes. I said he could have these when he goes and does poo's in the toilet but this has not worked either. I am finding myself getting cross at him, as we know it is not a medical problem, but I know I shouldn't do this as all the books say not to.
Please help me anyone who has anything different. I do like the idea of leaving them naked for a couple of days as we live in a warm climate, but this could prove difficult with school and my eldest son plays sport on the weekend, but I thnk I will give this one ago. What a great website I never knew so many people were dealing with this problem. now I know my son isn't an ailen. LOL.
my son talks about going to the toilet and how he does it, flushes and washes his hands, but he just won't actually do it. My doctor doesn't think he needs a psycological test. I to have given up work to help him get thru this but I am running out of patience. we recently moved to the country and now he has a great teacher who wants to help me with this problem instead of pushing my son aside. we have started a new routine of putting him on the toilet morning, lunch and after school but for the past few days he has done poo's in his pants only 15 to 20 mins after this!
I have taken away his toys and put them on top of the fridge so he can see them there but can't have them. After a day he had forgotten about this. Recently I took him to the shops and let him look at toys etc, he choose a Batman Bedspread and Batman shoes. I said he could have these when he goes and does poo's in the toilet but this has not worked either. I am finding myself getting cross at him, as we know it is not a medical problem, but I know I shouldn't do this as all the books say not to.
Please help me anyone who has anything different. I do like the idea of leaving them naked for a couple of days as we live in a warm climate, but this could prove difficult with school and my eldest son plays sport on the weekend, but I thnk I will give this one ago. What a great website I never knew so many people were dealing with this problem. now I know my son isn't an ailen. LOL.
I have to say, it's disheartening to have found this site... this is such a widespread problem that I'm sad to see it goes on for so long and with no SOLUTIONS!
My almost 4-year-old has been on Miralax since January, pee-trained perfectly, and now I'm in danger of having to find another preschool/daycare. I love where she is, but they just won't let her into the class for her age group because she poops in her underwear/pull-up. My husband and I are both employed full-time, and completely frustrated and there is pressure all around us now.
On Wednesday we went to a child psychiatrist who recommended that we leave her in a pull-up, take time off work to spend with her, and take the pressure off. Just have rewards if she DOES go, but no big deal if she doesn't. Also, give her more choices all around (we already do!). Well, from the looks of this board, nothing's going to change with this method, and I only have next week to figure something out.
Tonight my mother-in-law said that her sister's daughter had this issue. She solved it by having her spend a couple of days naked; no diaper, no undies. Has anyone tried this? I'm willing to go there... I have a feeling my daughter will not poop on the couch or the floor.. and we only are giving her enough Miralax to keep it soft, not liquidy.
Your thoughts??
My almost 4-year-old has been on Miralax since January, pee-trained perfectly, and now I'm in danger of having to find another preschool/daycare. I love where she is, but they just won't let her into the class for her age group because she poops in her underwear/pull-up. My husband and I are both employed full-time, and completely frustrated and there is pressure all around us now.
On Wednesday we went to a child psychiatrist who recommended that we leave her in a pull-up, take time off work to spend with her, and take the pressure off. Just have rewards if she DOES go, but no big deal if she doesn't. Also, give her more choices all around (we already do!). Well, from the looks of this board, nothing's going to change with this method, and I only have next week to figure something out.
Tonight my mother-in-law said that her sister's daughter had this issue. She solved it by having her spend a couple of days naked; no diaper, no undies. Has anyone tried this? I'm willing to go there... I have a feeling my daughter will not poop on the couch or the floor.. and we only are giving her enough Miralax to keep it soft, not liquidy.
Your thoughts??
Whoops. This site was having issues when I was trying to post. I'm so sorry for posting 3x.
I have to say, it's disheartening to have found this site... this is such a widespread problem that I'm sad to see it goes on for so long and with no SOLUTIONS!
My almost 4-year-old has been on Miralax since January, pee-trained perfectly, and now I'm in danger of having to find another preschool/daycare. I love where she is, but they just won't let her into the class for her age group because she poops in her underwear/pull-up. My husband and I are both employed full-time, and completely frustrated and there is pressure all around us now.
On Wednesday we went to a child psychiatrist who recommended that we leave her in a pull-up, take time off work to spend with her, and take the pressure off. Just have rewards if she DOES go, but no big deal if she doesn't. Also, give her more choices all around (we already do!). Well, from the looks of this board, nothing's going to change with this method, and I only have next week to figure something out.
Tonight my mother-in-law said that her sister's daughter had this issue. She solved it by having her spend a couple of days naked; no diaper, no undies. Has anyone tried this? I'm willing to go there... I have a feeling my daughter will not poop on the couch or the floor.. and we only are giving her enough Miralax to keep it soft, not liquidy.
Your thoughts??
My almost 4-year-old has been on Miralax since January, pee-trained perfectly, and now I'm in danger of having to find another preschool/daycare. I love where she is, but they just won't let her into the class for her age group because she poops in her underwear/pull-up. My husband and I are both employed full-time, and completely frustrated and there is pressure all around us now.
On Wednesday we went to a child psychiatrist who recommended that we leave her in a pull-up, take time off work to spend with her, and take the pressure off. Just have rewards if she DOES go, but no big deal if she doesn't. Also, give her more choices all around (we already do!). Well, from the looks of this board, nothing's going to change with this method, and I only have next week to figure something out.
Tonight my mother-in-law said that her sister's daughter had this issue. She solved it by having her spend a couple of days naked; no diaper, no undies. Has anyone tried this? I'm willing to go there... I have a feeling my daughter will not poop on the couch or the floor.. and we only are giving her enough Miralax to keep it soft, not liquidy.
Your thoughts??
I have to say, it's disheartening to have found this site... this is such a widespread problem that I'm sad to see it goes on for so long and with no SOLUTIONS!
My almost 4-year-old has been on Miralax since January, pee-trained perfectly, and now I'm in danger of having to find another preschool/daycare. I love where she is, but they just won't let her into the class for her age group because she poops in her underwear/pull-up. My husband and I are both employed full-time, and completely frustrated and there is pressure all around us now.
On Wednesday we went to a child psychiatrist who recommended that we leave her in a pull-up, take time off work to spend with her, and take the pressure off. Just have rewards if she DOES go, but no big deal if she doesn't. Also, give her more choices all around (we already do!). Well, from the looks of this board, nothing's going to change with this method, and I only have next week to figure something out.
Tonight my mother-in-law said that her sister's daughter had this issue. She solved it by having her spend a couple of days naked; no diaper, no undies. Has anyone tried this? I'm willing to go there... I have a feeling my daughter will not poop on the couch or the floor.. and we only are giving her enough Miralax to keep it soft, not liquidy.
Your thoughts??
My almost 4-year-old has been on Miralax since January, pee-trained perfectly, and now I'm in danger of having to find another preschool/daycare. I love where she is, but they just won't let her into the class for her age group because she poops in her underwear/pull-up. My husband and I are both employed full-time, and completely frustrated and there is pressure all around us now.
On Wednesday we went to a child psychiatrist who recommended that we leave her in a pull-up, take time off work to spend with her, and take the pressure off. Just have rewards if she DOES go, but no big deal if she doesn't. Also, give her more choices all around (we already do!). Well, from the looks of this board, nothing's going to change with this method, and I only have next week to figure something out.
Tonight my mother-in-law said that her sister's daughter had this issue. She solved it by having her spend a couple of days naked; no diaper, no undies. Has anyone tried this? I'm willing to go there... I have a feeling my daughter will not poop on the couch or the floor.. and we only are giving her enough Miralax to keep it soft, not liquidy.
Your thoughts??
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