4 year old behavior problem.

[croft6]

Not really sure where to start with this. My 4 year old son started preschool this year. He was a very well behaved kid up until about a month before that. He was potty trained and only got in trouble for small stuff once in a while. About a month before school started he started wetting the bed and pooping in his pants. I have cut off all liquids after super and he has to go potty before bed and spend 5 minutes tying to poop on the toilet before bed. We also take him to the bathroom at midnight and at about 4 am. The next morning he is still wet. I was thinking that this was due to him being so tired from going to school. The last few weeks however things have took a really big turn. It started with little lies here and there but for the past 4 days it has been one thing after another. Monday he got up earlier than normal and found a permanent marker. The marker ended up all over a lot of stuff. His favorite thing in the world is video games, which he is allowed 1 hour a day to play. He is grounded for a week from playing any. Point being that Christmas is Saturday and he will not be allowed to play his games until he gets ungrounded. This however has not seemed to faze him in the least bit. He is continually destroying things, not listening to anybody when they speak to him, having potty accidents one after another, and lying. He does not do any of this stuff at school, he just withdraws. I just was wondering if anybody had a suggestion about what to do.

[Sandman2]

  Oh boy, twins.  That is a really big change.  Not too much of a problem for your son - until they started to move around (how long ago was that), and then your attention gets really diverted.  I do think that is part of the problem.  Try and give him some positive attention. I know it sounds weird to say give him positive attention when he is screwing up, but I do think it will help.   I completely understand where you are coming from.  One reason I asked the question about new additions (no, I am not physic) is due to many posts that I have seen like yours.
  I am a bit concerned about the school withdrawal.  See if his teachers can give you some more info here.  Does he seem overly tired, doesn't go out and play?  Or does he just run around by himself?  If he seems really tired at school (which is different then withdrawal), you may want to get some medical advice.  If he sleeps that well at night, and can't move around during the day - something is not right.  Granted, it could be that the school is so stifling, that he just gives up there and then when he comes home it lets it all loose.  I have seen that happen.  You just might want to go and observe what is going on at school.  In fact, that would be my first recommendation!  The more I think about it, I highly suggest it.  Please post back if you have any more questions.  best wishes!

[croft6]

Thank you for the reply. There was a really big change about 19 months ago. We had twins. I never thought that could be the problem. He did really well with them until about a month before school. As far as when we get him up in the middle of the night to go potty. It is more like sleep potty. He does not wake up until he is standing in front of the potty, and falls right back to sleep. I'm going to get the book you  mentioned. Thank you for the tip.